Situational Retarded Ejaculation

Friends,

I can reach orgasm while mastubating , but not during intercourse.

When i started having sex i couldnt ejaculate inside vagina..
this happened for 2-3 months .
Since iam used to grip of palm while masterbating
the vagina cannot match the grip of palm while intercourse.

then suddenly we tried woman on top position (sitting on her feet not on knees) where vagina's grip is similar while masturbating .. up and down .. and i started reaching orgasm this way everytime we had sex .

I think those who has RE should try this position
it should definately work .


After 1 year Now still i couldnt reach orgasm with regular Missionary position , but woman on top works fine for me.

So experts do i have RE with my case ?

pls revert

If you can ejaculate my some means then you don't have RE. You have. like so many other men who get used to masturbation as their primary form of sexual relief, certain needs and preferences that need to me met in order to complete the sex act.

But in your case these needs are easily met unlike the majority of RE sufferers who find it difficult go get that perfect combination of visual and physical stimulation they need. Married men especially have a very difficult time getting these sexual preferences met in real life. For them porn is the only way to deal with the situation and still stay married.

I myself haven't been able to ejaculate with my wife for over 10 years. I had a couple of brief affairs during that time and have visited a few prostitutes and never had any trouble ejaculating. I do want to stay married so the thing that gets me aroused enough to have an orgasm- variety and newness, just isn't something I can get easily. I have learned to accept the situation but I do get depressed because of the lack of a sex life. Enjoy hat you have because for many of us with situational RE, the situation is pretty hopeless.

Married RE guy,

thanks for your reply ,

I can only have orgasm during sex with my wife if i fantasies
having sex with another woman ..friend or actress ..previous girfriends...

According to all of u masturbation & porn are the culprits ,
but i know 15 to 20 of my friends who used to masturbate more than i did and watched porn but they didnt have RE .

RE must be caused by Penis not been very sensitive , brain not triggering the orgasm ..very complicated procedure that.

Think of Sexual fantasies while having sex can be the answer to trigger the brain ..


let me know if we have any success stories

Penis sesitivity during intercourse is directly effected by the brain and the level of arousal that can be achieved with any given partner.

Orgasm is a combination of penile sensation and the level of desire, mostly the level of desire. The numb penis effect felt by so many men with retarded ejaculation is, according to Dr Berhard Apfelbaum of Berkeley California, caused by a sub optimal level of arousal. The causes for this are many and can be a combination of different psychological blocks. Visual attraction, performance anxiety, relationship issues, and depression are all factors contributing to a man's inability to ejaculate during sex with a partner.

As has been stated here before, most of these men can easily achieve orgasm while masturbating alone. Indeed, Dr. Apfelbaum believes that a significant number of men with RE actually prefer self masturbation to sex with another person.

And it is the act of going against this prefeernce in order to conform to societal norms, or perhaps out of lonliness and a percieved need for a close relationship with another person, that causes the pressure and anxiety which inhibits desire (sometimes without the man realizing it) and blocks the orgasm.

New Study of Retarded Ejaculation---they are called it "IE"

Looks like RE men prefer fantasy to the real thing. As a 25 year
sufferer with RE I can see some truth to that. There are other interesting findings in the report. I disagree with the finding that the sexual attractivness of the partner is not as important as preveously believed. In my own marriage the lack of sexual attraction to my wife has always been the #1 cause of my RE. That and a preference for sexual fantasy and variety. Anyway, check out the study here:

http://www.blackwell-synergy.com/doi/fu ... 05.20352.x

I have always had problems with RE It can take me up to two hours to achieve ejaculation, even through masturbation. Usually after an hour I give up all together if I dont ejaculate.

Actually Im to the point that I dont even try to ejaculate durring sexual activit. I will play till I or more often my partner tires out. the main thing is so many women I have been with feel that if I dont ejaculate that they have done something wrong or I dont find them attractive.

It really doesnt matter how sexy or comfortable I feel about the woman Im with. Ive tried to live out as many fantasies as possible. Ive even tried prostate massage. Nothing seems to work. Although Im loved at sex parties as the other men will tire out long before I do.

I do have dry orgasams along the way. I will feel the sensations that I do durring ejaculation but no or little fluid will come out and then I still remain erect.

I have been this way for as long as I can remember. I have asked my family pratitioners to send me to a urologist but they always want to send me to a psychatrist.

The only thing that sort of works, is to go days or even weeks without any type of sexual activity but even then the best I get it down to is 30 minutes but even then its rare.

I havent tried any of the ED meds as they all seem to prevent premature ejacualtion, so to me this seems like it would only compound my problem.

For as long as this has RE has been around I would think that they would have found some kind of pill or something to help with this.

Ive recently considered trying the topical lotions out there that women use to make themselves more sensitive (ie Vaseoplex), to see if that helps. Has anyone else tried this?

Another thing Im interested in knowing is, if it could be a greater problem for circumsized men. Durring circumcision many nerve endings in the penis are severed and I think this could be part of the problem. I havent seen a study on something like that yet and it would be interesting to know.

Talk of circumsized guys being more susceptible to RE is a myth created and repeated over and over on the internet. Like herbal treatments and creams to cure RE, it's all #######4. RE is, except in a very few rare instances, a psychological problem, not a physical one.

First of all I'd like to thank all those that have contributed to this thread. It's been a great resource and source of relief for me. Before reading it I had no idea that anyone else suffered from the same troubles. I can't believe it took me so long to look this up on the internet.

I'd like to, if there are no objections, draw this conversation towards possible cures/treatments that other sufferers of RE have attempted.

Just by reading all the information here, I feel like I've travelled 20% of the road towards some level of recovery. My next step is to come in contact with all the girls that I have had relationships with, whom this problem has affected, to discuss it with them. I, like many, was in a bit of a denial, and some girls reacted by thinking that THEY were doing something wrong.

I'm hoping that clearing things up, and clear communication will help me get another 20% of the way there (by relaxing me). From there, who knows, but I remain positive.

Thanks again

anonymous

I'm having trouble having a climax with this woman I'm seeing. I think it's due to chronic masturbation in the past. Since we met, I've stopped masturbating in hopes of having orgasms with her. I'd like to know if there's a general time required for the effects of masturbation to reverse themselves.

Jacob---It depends on the masturbation techniques you used. A firm grip cannot be duplicated by vaginal or oral sex. And she would have to masturbate you using your own grip technique in order for you to orgasm.

Two weeks should do it providing there was no heavy porn use and you had a light grip style. Also if you have spent your life masturbating with few real sexual encounters then the process could take longer.