my non-existent sexlife.

Hello,
I am a 22 year old boy. I have never had sex. I had two girlfriends with which the most we did was handjobs, but I have always been afraid to go to the next step. I believe this is because of the fact that I was grown up as a christian and I remember that one day a priest told me that masturbation was a very big sin and I should stop immediately. Ever since that day I started to feel guilty when watching porn or masturbating. I know this is not ok and I have always been trying to convince myself that I'm not doing anything bad, but with no result.
I feel a very strong sexual desire every day. Sometimes I watch porn and/or masturbate, but the feeling of guilt is the same.

My problem is that I feel like I am a child because all the people of my age I know have their own sex life and they seem so happy about it. My former best friend had sex with many girls and kept telling me about it all the time, and I was feeling so bad when hearing everything he was saying, because I felt I deserved it too, but I have never been relaxed and confident enough to attract girls or to have sex with the two girlfriends I had.

I would appreciate some advice from you. Thank you in advance.
M

Ok,there a few thing that you need to understand:
1) Religion: If God made us to last he expects us to have sex to make children. Also if we are made in his image that means that he also has the same desires as you. so drop that stupid way of thinking.
2) You cant force this. Some people have intercourse earlier and some later so dont look to any one as an example for your own life because you are different to start with.
3) Fetishes Are used so you can have something in the bedroom that is missing in other parts of your life. This can be your motivation.
Its simple as this:
If you have the need you should do it,if not,try it any ways

Find the understanding and patient person,the one you feel comfortable with and tell her your problem.
This way it will be interesting for her to corrupt you
With this kind of person you will probably feel more comfortable and these problems will slowely fade. Also try getting drunk or smoking some pot and see if it changes your moods towards it.

Hope this helps

You had given yourself a very psychologically meaningful explanation; what the priest told you has probably affected you and you had internalized it as a negative feeling towards sex.

Masturbation is a sin according to all religions however we are not perfect machines; we all have our weaknesses and some of us can control them some others cannot.

Look at it from this perspective':
despite your young age you are mature enough to be engaged in a relationship with the right girl without necessarily bonding through sex.
You will easily recognize the right girl once you will be able to open your feelings and problems towards her and she will understand your "problem" and will be willing to help you overcome it little by little.

Chose the girl that decides to bet on you no matter what and you will be surprised at how you two together will overcome any obstacle; this too...

Release the anxiety and remember your not the first nor will be the last one to have similar tests to pass.

Good luck!