Painful Sex

So for the last 3 years, I'd say, we have had a problem.
Our sex life is like once a month versus a couple times a week like in the beginning of our 4 year relationship.
I have eczema and sometimes I think it might be that, but I don't know.

Whenever we have sex, the vaginal opening has superficial tears. It hurts extremely bad afterwards. I have a steroid cream for afterwards, but it takes days to heal then the fear that it will just tear again sets in. I have a gynecology appointment set up for my annual exam and will reiterate with my doctor what is happening.
I hate this. We have affection issues because we have no closeness. I know it is me, unless I'm allergic to him?

Could be, sweets. I've heard of allergies to sperm. I think I read of one couple they made a serum from his ejaculate, to administer like any other allergy shot. Never know, might be worth having that possibility checked out.

Hmm.. Once a month still ain't bad, by me reckoning. Try going on 13 years, see what that frequency is. Meh, it's just part of it. It IS normal for things to settle down... although not involuntarily on account of it being torture on you, hon.