Psychological ED taking toll on relationship

Hi everybody,

A month into my relationship I starting having ED problems, my libido banished overnight, and lost a lotof sensation in the genitals. This problem is present even when I masturbate. I really like the relationship, so I have fought this for the last 5 months.

Here is my background: I was porn-addicted until 28, when I quit, moved to a different countyr and fell in love with an older woman. After 5 weeks I broke up with her, but still had feelings. I then got in another 6 month relationship shortly after, and was sad when it ended. After a 4 month break, with a couple scattered 'affairs,' I met my current girlfriend, who is a dream-woman and who I would love to marry.

I realize that my problem is at least in part due to the pain of the those earlier relatoinships ending kind of traumatically (it was a big deal since I was unexperienced), and it was probably a bit too early to get back in the saddle. However, I am extremely hopeful of keeping this relationship because she is really perfect for me. So I just wanted to ask for opinions: will staying in the relationship perpetuate the ED problem, or will it evenutally go away? Thanks in advance.

Are you still free of porn? I'm pro porn in general. But it's like alcohol. Some people just don't do well with any at all. And it can lead to ED.

Were there any other changes / influences around the time your libido vanished? Changes in stress levels at work / school. Sleeping. Any new meds or supplements. Diet and exercise?

Hello,
In my opinion any problem can't go away by itself. You should do something to manage it.

When it comes to psychologically induced erectile dysfunction, the first step that should be done is an honest talk with your partner. Talk about the things you may want her to do. If you are embarassed to talk to her about this problem now, try to discuss the things you both may wish in bed.

If it doesn't help, you may try ED drugs. Start with lower dosages.

I'd like to mention that it is better to undergo a total physical checkup, as erection problems can be related to some other health issues that should be treated.

Hope it helps.