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Delayed Ejaculation issues

Postby Ashura » Tue Sep 15, 2015 9:31 pm

Hi everyone, before I first had sex I never actually knew delayed ejaculation was a problem. Most of the time people always complain about pre-mature or quickshots, and always praise people who last a long time. I feel kind of the opposite at the moment. I have a great time during sex, it feels great and everything until the fact that my partner's worn out and I still haven't ejaculated. It takes me upwards to 1 hour sometimes to get off, and I feel like sometimes it's been getting worse. It's reasonably faster when I masturbate, but even then it takes much longer then what seems to be the average. I feel like it always makes my partners feel bad even when I try not to let it bother me as much... But it does, there's nothing wrong with who I'm with but it gets frustrating. Nothing in the bedroom seems to help much... I give fair warning before hand and while they seem skeptical at first for all the wrong reasons, we're both frustrated at the end for completely different reasons. Sometimes I don't even get it off.

On that note, I'm currently a 22 year old man that is reasonably active. Not sure if any of this info will help, but I'm 5'7" at around 170 lbs. I'm slightly out of shape, but still reasonable since I have to bike about 30 miles a week back and forth from work. I don't have any known STD's or illnesses and I get the feeling this is more mental then physical - though I may be wrong. I've always had this problem.

Any help would be really appreciated!
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation issues

Postby kevs099 » Thu Sep 17, 2015 10:54 am

classic case of masturbation technique, sex can't duplicate the same pressure/friction put on your penis during masturbation may not be exactly like prone but the same thing any masturbation technique the uses more pressure/friction/force than regular sex

Although about 90 percent of males masturbate by hand, about 5-10 percent masturbate by lying face down and thrusting the penis into or against the bed, pillow, or something else. Although masturbation is normal, healthy, and fun, prone masturbation causes severe sexual dysfunction in most males who practice it. This web site describes prone masturbation and the problems of its practitioners and offers case studies and approaches to becoming cured.

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Re: Delayed Ejaculation issues

Postby kevs099 » Thu Sep 17, 2015 3:37 pm

What's wrong with masturbating prone?

Nearly all males agree that masturbating face up is a fun and delightful practice, but masturbating face down puts excessive pressure on the penis, and especially on the base of the penis. These sensations are not easily replicated in conventional masturbation or in sexual intercourse. This is not analagous to intercourse being performed face down, as most males do, because the partner's body provides more resistance than the objects a male who masturbates prone uses to thrust into or against. Prone masturbation can reduce the ability of a male to have normal sexual relations. A survey conducted for this web site revealed that males who masturbate conventionally have sexual intercourse 6.6 times more often than males who masturbate prone.

The most common problems males who masturbate prone have are delayed orgasm or a complete inability to have an orgasm during intercourse (anorgasmia). Many males who masturbate prone also have trouble getting erections. It's a common experience among males who are used to masturbating face down to be unable to have an orgasm even after engaging in sexual intercourse for over half an hour. The female partners of these men find this outcome unusual and often wonder if they are to blame for the man's inability to reach orgasm through intercourse.

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Re: Delayed Ejaculation issues

Postby Ashura » Fri Sep 18, 2015 10:46 pm

kevs099 wrote:classic case of masturbation technique, sex can't duplicate the same pressure/friction put on your penis during masturbation may not be exactly like prone but the same thing any masturbation technique the uses more pressure/friction/force than regular sex

Although about 90 percent of males masturbate by hand, about 5-10 percent masturbate by lying face down and thrusting the penis into or against the bed, pillow, or something else. Although masturbation is normal, healthy, and fun, prone masturbation causes severe sexual dysfunction in most males who practice it. This web site describes prone masturbation and the problems of its practitioners and offers case studies and approaches to becoming cured.

healthystrokes.com

Thanks for the reply! I haven't really done prone masturbation before and seeing the results I probably won't. How would you recommend resolving this problem? This problem is quite frustrating, and I've done some experimenting with different masturbation techniques. (I'm uncircumcised), using the skin will allow for a lot lower sensation and a quicker releases, though ultimately very unsatisfying. This is what I used a lot while I was younger. However, testing it out showed that the head of my penis is too sensitive. Sometimes to the point of pain. I'm not exactly sure what the problem is, perhaps over sensitivity?
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation issues

Postby kevs099 » Sun Sep 20, 2015 2:51 pm

Ashura wrote:I haven't really done prone masturbation before and seeing the results I probably won't. How would you recommend resolving this problem? This problem is quite frustrating, and I've done some experimenting with different masturbation techniques


I'm sorry but you missed the relationship between prone masturbation and your trouble with delayed ejaculation.

[*]It's reasonably faster when I masturbate, but even then it takes much longer then what seems to be the average. I feel like it always makes my partners feel bad even when I try not to let it bother me as much [*]Sometimes I don't even get it off [*]I've always had this problem.


The above statements are screaming the only thing it could be is your masturbation technique.

I think it's safe to assume you learned how to masturbate and did so hundreds of times before having your first sexual relationship and attempting intercourse, correct? True, your masturbation technique may not be described as prone but there is something about it similar to prone that is abnormal and uses more pressure/friction/force than you can get from a live woman and conventional sexual relations such as intercourse. Exactly the same as prone masturbation, your masturbation technique has conditioned your penis so that the only way you can get off is by practicing said masturbation technique.

I have a great time during sex, it feels great and everything until the fact that my partner's worn out and I still haven't ejaculated. It takes me upwards to 1 hour sometimes to get off, and I feel like sometimes it's been getting worse. It's reasonably faster when I masturbate, but even then it takes much longer then what seems to be the average


It's getting worse, and will not get any better until you identify it and commit yourself to taking action and curing it

below content quoted from healthy strokes describing the symptoms and affects of prone that are clearly the same as your symptoms and the effects it's having on you

What's wrong with masturbating prone?

Nearly all males agree that masturbating face up is a fun and delightful practice, but masturbating face down puts excessive pressure on the penis, and especially on the base of the penis. These sensations are not easily replicated in conventional masturbation or in sexual intercourse. This is not analagous to intercourse being performed face down, as most males do, because the partner's body provides more resistance than the objects a male who masturbates prone uses to thrust into or against. Prone masturbation can reduce the ability of a male to have normal sexual relations. A survey conducted for this web site revealed that males who masturbate conventionally have sexual intercourse 6.6 times more often than males who masturbate prone.

The most common problems males who masturbate prone have are delayed orgasm or a complete inability to have an orgasm during intercourse (anorgasmia). Many males who masturbate prone also have trouble getting erections. It's a common experience among males who are used to masturbating face down to be unable to have an orgasm even after engaging in sexual intercourse for over half an hour. The female partners of these men find this outcome unusual and often wonder if they are to blame for the man's inability to reach orgasm through intercourse.

These things are understandable consequences of prone masturbation. Even males who enjoy masturbating the conventional way don't get as much stimulation from intercourse as from masturbation (because in masturbation one can control precisely the type, force, and location of the stimulation one gets, while in intercourse a lot of that is not under control.) For males who masturbate prone, the amount of stimulation in intercourse is a small fraction of what they get masturbating.

How does it happen that some males masturbate prone?

More than 90 percent of males learn to masturbate through self-discovery. Males who masturbate in the prone position unfortunately self-discovered an unconventional method. The small fraction of males who learn to masturbate from other people invariably learn to do it the conventional way. (Most males who discover it for themselves also discover the conventional way.
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Your masturbation technique is not described as prone but there is clearly something about it that uses an abnormal amount of pressure/friction/force on your penis and you are experiencing the same symptoms and affects of prone masturbation

The approach to becoming cured will take commitment and a lot of hard work on your part. There is a workbook at healthystrokes.com you can print for free that will guide you thru the steps to becoming cured which first calls for abstaining from masturbation for a long period of time 3 -4 weeks after which you start practicing normal masturbation using less pressure on your penis.

The long pause in masturbation allows your penis to recover sensitivity damaged by your masturbation technique. It's likely to take more than 4 weeks to become cured and failing at the first attempt is common which there is a question and answer forum for this purpose.

Hope to see you back here someday informing me that you are cured

Good Luck, Kev
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation issues

Postby Ashura » Tue Sep 22, 2015 9:21 pm

Thanks for replying again. I'll take your advice and try this out. While I'm abstaining from masturbation, does that also mean abstaining from sexual activities as well? Up to this point I've had a reasonably active sex life and I think an entire month without release might be quite stressful, though not impossible I guess. I guess you might be right about the masturbation - I don't think I'm using too much force when I do, but it's completely possible that it might just happen. I'll look into the sources you've suggested for me. Thanks for the help!
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation issues

Postby kevs099 » Tue Sep 22, 2015 11:07 pm

Ashura wrote:While I'm abstaining from masturbation, does that also mean abstaining from sexual activities as well?


A reasonable question any guy would want to ask. In trying to think of an answer I reviewed your original post and yes, you are sexually active but it seems like a lot of work for you and not getting much out of it other than frustration for both you and your partner.

I don't think sexual activity will make any difference because that is where your concern lays and you want to know how to fix it. I say channel some of that energy into trying to make the cure work for you and don't hesitate to post your question on the healthy strokes board although I'm not sure how active they are in answering. I think I read somewhere they try to keep it updated every 2 or 3 days

I know it's hard to stay away from porn and other sexualized media, about the only way to avoid it is listen to classical or gospel music radio LOL Try strenuous exercise, have any extreme activities or hobbies like skydiving? LOL Revisit an old hobby, finish those unfinished projects, scrub your house from top to bottom with a toothbrush, clean out all the clutter in your drawers, cabinets and closets. Fix that problem with your car long and coming, mow the lawn with a pair of scissors. Volunteer at the goodwill or your local food bank. Attend church, just try to keep thinking of ways to reinvent yourself for the month or whatever advice you may get from healthy strokes
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation issues

Postby Ashura » Wed Sep 23, 2015 4:53 pm

Hmm, thanks for the advice. I'll try my best to keep it up, to be honest, I don't think I've gone any longer then a week without masturbating before since I started so it might be really difficult, considering I still have a really high libido. Abstaining from porn won't be too difficult, but avoiding sexualized media might be slightly more difficult.... It's everywhere >.>. I'm not sure I can abstain from sex as well because if my partner comes on to me.... well since I'm abstaining from masturbation I don't know if my will power can stand under that... I'll tell you how it goes! Thanks for the help.
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation issues

Postby Sandy Rivers » Mon Sep 28, 2015 9:10 am

Hi, i can suggest you several methods to cure delayed ejaculation.

If you are able to ejaculate in a reasonable period of time by some form of stimulation, see a therapist who specializes in ejaculation problems. Sex therapy usually includes both partners. The therapist will usually teach you about the sexual response, and how to communicate and guide your partner to provide the right stimulation.

Therapy often involves a series of "homework" assignments. In the privacy of your home, you and your partner engage in sexual activities that reduce performance pressure and focus on pleasure.

Typically, you will not have sexual intercourse for a certain period of time, while you gradually learn to enjoy ejaculation through other types of stimulation.

In cases where there is a problem with the relationship or a lack of sexual desire, you may need therapy to improve your relationship and emotional intimacy.

Sometimes hypnosis may be a helpful addition to therapy, especially if one partner is not willing to participate in therapy. Trying to self-treat this problem is often not successful.

If a medication is believed to be the cause of the problem, discuss other medication options with your health care provider. Never stop taking any medicine without first talking to your health care provider.
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