I'm evidently bad in bed.

The title pretty well sums it up. I have been told by a friend of mine (who has known all of my former sex partners) that they have made some mention that I am not that good in bed. Granted I take his word with a grain of salt but nevertheless I always strive to please. I am not confident in my performances, but I can only use what I know and what I have to work with. I am somewhat self-conscious about my body but I am always making an effort. I want to do better in bed but I am a little curious as to if I could ever find someone to teach me how to be better and not just me watching porn. Does someone out there care to point me in the right direction or offer up any good advice?

I am reminded of the old saying; "With friends like that... who needs enemies?"

Sex is not a contest.

Regularly good sex, like most things, only develops with practice. A series of one-night or very short term encounters will never lead to good sex because good sex is more than a simple mechanical coupling of two bodies it is about caring for one-another, understanding one-another and wanting to give to another rather than take for oneself.

Ignore your friend, he's cruel.

Don't worry about becoming a sex stud just find a partner you can develop a relationship with and good sex will follow.

James