Molested By Classmate Now Have A Weird Outlook On Sex

This happened around 24 years ago when I was in the 3rd grade but I still remember it clear as day. This one male classmate would often touch or attempt to touch me inappropriately. He’d grab my crotch and/or buttocks and would attempt to finger my anus through my pants while calling me homophobic slurs even though I was not gay. I never encouraged it and would quickly get away from him/shove him away from me, he’d react with anger and violence and would be back at it again in a day or so. I told my teacher and her response was simply that he “does that to everyone and to stop being such a tattle tale.” This eventually just stopped on it’s own but I was wondering if this could have contributed to my issues with intimacy. I see nothing wrong with masturbating (while doing it) but have a contradictory belief that intimate encounters between two people should be saved for marriage.

If the teacher said that it seems a little odd? I remember when I was at a nursery that a kid got his thing out and I dont remember what else he did or if the staff there somehow encouraged it.

Let's see... what is marriage? what does it means for you?
Marriage was 'made up' for people by people, religion apart it is just a contract (with much more social status and stuff ofc). So if 2 people are in love with each other and do desire to make love (and are responsible) why to wait for marriage? Is it to check if the relationship survives till then (so it would be like a prize?) ?
I don't think love or sex must be connected to marriage that way.
Anyway, i think your class mate was a problem. I don't know if you even told your parents about that, i just know if my parents knew about something like that they would run into my school to show some maners to that teacher cos the teacher was on charge, she should have done something about it.

Mr. Goldstein wrote:I see nothing wrong with masturbating (while doing it) but have a contradictory belief that intimate encounters between two people should be saved for marriage.

What is your problem? Your view of intimacy and marriage is the same as about 5 billion of the Earth's people...

It’s tough to describe to be honest. The feeling is like a prostitute that just won’t do certain things and is thought to be prudish for not doing them, at the same time the same prostitute regularly engages in other sex acts while feeling that what they are doing in general is wrong according to their moral compass but yet they continue doing them anyway.

Molested may be too strong a word as my clothing was always on but I was inappropriately touched through them. This always happened on the playground with aids around but they never seemed to see it, it was the sort of situation where they’d see you blow up at someone for doing things like this to you after reaching a breaking point but conveniently never seemed to witness the incidents leading up to your reaching your limit.