Repulsed by obese females - normal?

I feel disgust whenever I see an obese female. Just the thought of seeing an obese woman naked or even fully clothed makes me want to vomit. I don't even see them as women in the sexual sense, its like they are not a gender at all. I hate the way they eat (esp. junk food or seeing them in fast food joints), how they breathe, how their voices sound hard and masculine/bitter, how they spew feminism and fat-acceptance, how they try to shame men for liking slim women. Its like they are evil upon the human race.

This thread/blog really got me thinking how damaging fat women are to men on the dating market. This guy 100% nailed it. http://swooptheworld.com/i-hate-fat-girls/

Simply by existing in large numbers, obese women raise the value of slim women. These slim women become picky about men as a result because supply of slim women is low but demand high. Do I hate fat woman because I want a slim woman but have failed to attract a slim woman? I just feel like fat women are for loser men or low bidders. Is it my defense mechanism to not feel like a loser in the dating market? I dunno.

I'n not deliberately nasty to fat woman, if they message me on a dating site I ignore them. I don't mind having them as a friend if they are not feminist.... but as a potential sex partner I feel disgusted.

How is this a disorder? Most men feel this way.

As a bisexual female, I feel this way too... I mean I don't mind a bit overweight but really fat women... no...

Interesting; not to many posted comments... You would think a hundred would be posted.

First; Not all fat people are fat because they eat junk food.. for some, its meds causing it!

Many women have been raped: and the fat protects them!

Many have no self worth as people and would rather die! rather kill themselves.. They are people! just like you and just like me!

Many will die of heart attack at a very early age! possibly!

Some people have medical disorders and can't exercise !

Food addiction to sugar is part of a nation wide problem!


The stomach; The stomach area is considerers a brain unto itself, much like the upper human brain! the digestive system is a very complex thing. Good health is described by the size of that waist! A thin waist is considered a sign that the digestive track is working in top order.

People find healthy people attractive! Thin is healthy!

I wondered why women didn't care that there husbands were overweight! I thought they were just forgiving; not so! The women stated simply " these men are the fathers are our children, if they were not, we would dump them; we hate the weight problem"!
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more fat women means less slim women! slim women are in higher demand! Thus they have an edge in the dating game!

My opinion! I don't think so! All I have to do is create attraction in a women and she's mine! The key is to understand how to create attraction in any women; this can be done by studying dating and attraction on Youtube!

Bert Parsnips wrote:I'n not deliberately nasty to fat woman

I feel disgust ... makes me want to vomit ... its like they are not a gender at all ... I hate ... Its like they are evil upon the human race.

Your post is a giant contradiction. No, this isn't "normal". Certainly, people vary in what they're attracted to. But there's no law that says you HAVE to find any given person attractive.

The degree of disgust you describe is over and above "not finding such women attractive." That isn't the language you'd use to describe not being attracted to men, for example. So yes, I think there's something triggering you. Which is nothing at all about the size of some people. Something personal to you.

Do I hate fat woman because I want a slim woman but have failed to attract a slim woman? Is it my defense mechanism to not feel like a loser in the dating market?

Excellent and important questions. What's your honest answer?

I just feel like fat women are for loser men or low bidders.

Or for men or women who find them highly attractive. Which is what I wish for everyone. That they find one [or more, if appropriate] partner who finds them highly sexually attractive no matter what they weigh.

KevinG31 wrote:How is this a disorder? Most men feel this way.

Yeah seriously, if this is a disorder I think like 90% of men on earth would qualify as "disordered." And being as I hear women throwing up lunch in my office bathroom on a regular basis, I have to assume a good percentage of women feel the same way!

Bert Parsnips wrote: Just the thought of seeing an obese woman naked or even fully clothed makes me want to vomit.

I actually agree, and I appreciate your honesty. My feeling about female beauty is that it's kind of a binary thing: either you'd pay to see her take her clothes off or you wouldn't. She's either a 0 or a 1; it is what it is.

If it's any consolation, I don't know any fat women who feel "proud" or whatever. Most of them are always working very hard to be small, and they prioritize it above anything else.

As an overweight female, I can say that I have encountered these sentiments since I hit puberty. I've been overweight since puberty, which I attribute to my use of SSRIs, but that's besides the point. I am a feminist and I fully support the fat-acceptance movement, but body-shaming of any kind is awful to me. I am not any more of a woman than an anorexic girl- weight does not determine who is "more" feminine. There is no point in shaming men for liking slim women. Regardless of whether or not it is politically correct, everyone does have their preferences when it comes to attraction, and there is nothing wrong with that. I prefer tall, lanky boys, personally.

With all of that being said, the generalizations made in that article are absolutely disgusting to me. I know many people share your sentiments, but because of that, I desexualized myself from a very young age. I had already accepted at age 15 that I would never find anyone who found me attractive. You have every right to find a certain type of person attractive, and to find others unattractive. It's human nature! But saying things like "its like they are not a gender at all" is exceptionally destructive and cruel. It's dehumanization, and I was (and honestly, still am) a victim of it. Not only that, but the notion that "obese women raise the value of slim women" is just exceptionally callous. If you want a slim woman, you'll eventually find one, but talking about women as if you're at some sort of auction is probably your real problem here. There is nothing wrong with not finding overweight people sexually attractive. If you don't like fat girls, ignore their messages, but don't blame them for your inability to find a sexual partner. That's on you.

Edit: I completely agree with Ada's post... stop focusing so much on the "low bidders" and start focusing on what the real problem is.

Many men are repulsed by obese women, BUT your description goes further and deeper than not being sexually attracted to them. You are judging them on many other levels. In fact, some comments on here reek of "hatred of women".

Sad to say, women still face discrimination if they are not the perfect shape.

I'm not obese, but am somewhat overweight and don't care one bit if men find me attractive or not.
I like who I am and how I look, and am a happy person.

Anya, there definitely are men who find obese women attractive. No doubt about it.
There are BBF sites... Big Beautiful Females.

I like what the Bible says: Man looks on the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart.

I like fat women. To my eyes, they're a lot more 'womanly' than skinny women, and I say that as a skinny bloke.

Whoever you are, there's going to be people for whom you're not their cup of tea. Using the word 'repulsed' is bang out of order. There's people who I'm not attracted to, to the extent that the thought of sexual contact with them makes me feel very queasy, but I wouldn't dream of making a post like Bert's.

Calling people repulsive, because of their body shape, is up there with racism in my book. As I said, I'm a skinny bloke, and I've had soul destroying criticism of that in my lifetime. I've stuffed myself with high fat/high calorie foods, and punished myself with heavy weight lifting regimes etc, but I'm still what I am. Conversely, I know fat people who barely eat a thing.

Some of us just are what we are. It's not always a sign of a particular lifestyle that you might disapprove of, but even if it is, so what?

To Bert: I guarantee you this: I don't know what you look like, but I know you're not perfect. Like everybody else on this planet, your physical attributes will be attractive to some and repellent to others.

It's not a sexual dysfunction to find certain people unattractive or even repulsive. It's a simple question of taste, and nobody should have to hear that they make people of certain tastes feel disgust, or that they make them want to vomit, or that they're "evil upon the human race".

If you'd written those things about an ethnicity, then chances are you'd have the old bill knocking at your door if you lived in the UK.

You don't have to like everybody in this world, but you can sure as Hell conduct yourself with some common decency and bloody well grow up about these things.

Have a nice weekend.

Since fat (not morbidly obese) and slim people have comparable life expectancy there is something more going on than some kind of instinctual indication of female biological fitness. My hypothesis is that when the hunter males returned, in order that the tribe be fed, they felt attracted to give their meat to the slim females (pun intended). This had three advantages: the slim women were hungry and needed to be fed; the slim females were younger and less likely pair-bonded; slim women are less likely to be pregnant (this applies all the way to amphibians and reptiles).

Do I hate fat woman because I want a slim woman but have failed to attract a slim woman? Is it my defense mechanism to not feel like a loser in the dating market?

Modern society is obviously very sick; female obesity is only a tiny shard of the iceburg of social collapse you are experiencing.

I think most obesity is caused by an unsatisfied sucking feeling in the heart which is also what causes much smoking, drugs addiction, consumerism, shoplifting, and other behaviors related to attempting to fill the insatiable black hole in the heart of the modern woman (and man).