What is wrong with me? Am I not man enough? I wanna die

I'm 26,M and technically still a virgin.

Problem:
Strange case of erectile disfunctioning where erection works just fine when I masturbate alone or when I sleep.I ALWAYS wake up with an erection much to my embarassment whenever the blanket gets off me in sleep and someone notices.However,when I tried losing virginity to hookers,penis goes total dead,not 1% erection.I tried having sex with different hookers on 8 different ocassions and didn't penetrate once! I see a hooker and I get horny, aroused and what not but as soon as I pay her and put on the condom,penis won't work.


History:
Watched a lot of (even wierd ones like scat) porno online.
Current fetish: Cocks of 'Feminine' looking shemales.I started liking shemale cocks so much that vaginas are almost boring now but I love hairy vaginas more than she cocks (Hairy women with hairy arms and legs in my all time fav fetish that will never change).Could it be a factor in messing me up?

And I have this very low esteem and am socially off.I avoid interactins and can't maintain eye contact.

Why is this happening to me?

Hi Rob, please do not post the same question to so many different forums. In some it is off topic. It also means that follow-up replies aren't read by others. So some of the details may be missed in other threads.

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