Granddaughter sexually aggressive

Kids are getting sexual a lot earlier than ever and many kids act on it earlier. I've got to be careful what I say here. I don't think it's completely abnormal to recognize sexuality in a young developing female. That's one reason so many cultures desire 'young virgins' as objects for marriage, or in other words, selfish sexual gratification using a child as a sex toy. As titillating as this may be, you are playing with fire to allow her to freely practice on you and it sounds as if on an intellectual level, you know it's not right, but you aren't doing a lot to stop it. Talk with the parents and tell them that you want to discourage such behavior without causing undue fuss that may confuse or frustrate her. Even though her body is developing, she is fragile as an egg inside and how this is handled may affect her the rest of her life. Every granddad likes little girls to love on them, but sex isn't they way to get or show attention at that age.

I read your story again and came to a realization. If she it getting off and you are getting off as a result of her actions and your passivity, you are already having sex with her. The only defense is that she initiated it and you just went along. That's why it needs to stop NOW. You haven't exposed yourself or penetrated her, just worked through clothing which is good. Again, I'd tell the parents, but I wouldn't include the part about you getting off with her and maybe not the part about her orgasming against you. She probably doesn't know or understand it all , so no harm done, yet. She needs to be diverted from this behavior. If you are orgasming you are letting it continue over time and you are enjoying it. I don't know anybody that has an orgasm and doesn't enjoy it. So man, not matter how good it feels or as fascinating as it is, you gotta stop before it has gone too far. Let me reiterate that I think that interest in a a sexually developing young girl isn't unnatural or ''bad', but you shouldn't be letting this go.

Masturbating at her age is perfectly healthy and OK for children who do it. The aggression and seeking sexual contact is not healthy or 'normal'. She needs to be taken to a doctor ASAP. The most obvious is sexual abuse by someone close to her - this sort of behaviour is seen in children who have been exposed to sexual activity at a very early age.

However, it could also be that she has an hormonal imbalance or - extremely rare, a tumor on the brain.

For her health and safety, she needs to see a doctor and probably a child psychologist. For your sake, you need to stop finding yourself alone with her. Why are you going into a room she is sleeping in, if you know she is going to do this? Why are you not locking the bathroom door when she is around, to prevent her getting in? Why are you not telling her she has to sit up with no blanket while watching TV with you?

In short, why are YOU as the adult not taking more pro-active and responsible steps in this situation? In an extreme case, I would even tell her parents she is not to come around until after she has been to a doctor.

I understand this is an older post, but how do you let this happen 5-6 times???...something sounds not right

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It seems pretty easy to stop her from sitting on top of you and getting orgasms or doing any of this in front of you. I would want to leave immediately and in regards to being fondled or molested by a grandchild, get up immediately. You're saying it's getting harder for you to resist. Are you paedophilic? Either way, you definitely need to stop submitting and you need to tell her parents about her frequent issues... this could come up at school or she could be rubbing her skin raw. You don't need to make her feel dirty or ashamed but you should tell her parents about it, if this is a serious thread.

Hey! As a girl who was destroyed before 7 years old, STOP!
You will ruin her whole life and sexuality. When she is old, she will still be dysfunctional. I don't have any friends or relationships, I don't have or want sex with anyone. I have no family, no connections. Do you want her to live a miserable life?
STOP!
Also, why is she sexualized at such a young age?

rainbowstar wrote:While I can kinda see where you're coming from, 99 percent of people who read that are going to see you as the aggressor and want to throw you in jail for the rest of your life for having sex with an eight year old.

And rightly so. Both of them have allegedly climaxed while she was on top of him thrusting against his penis, it means that at a minimum the guy is letting it happen. Also this girl is not "discovering herself", as someone here pointed out, she's been abused. She displays sexual knowledge she shouldn't have at that age (breast touching, vaginas and penises making contact). It's almost like I'm back in the paraphilia forum reading about some pedophile lamenting that they're being "seduced"... Be the adult grampa, and a safe one.

frustratedoldguy wrote:Kids are getting sexual a lot earlier than ever and many kids act on it earlier. I've got to be careful what I say here. I don't think it's completely abnormal to recognize sexuality in a young developing female. That's one reason so many cultures desire 'young virgins' as objects for marriage, or in other words, selfish sexual gratification using a child as a sex toy. As titillating as this may be, you are playing with fire to allow her to freely practice on you and it sounds as if on an intellectual level, you know it's not right, but you aren't doing a lot to stop it. Talk with the parents and tell them that you want to discourage such behavior without causing undue fuss that may confuse or frustrate her. Even though her body is developing, she is fragile as an egg inside and how this is handled may affect her the rest of her life. Every granddad likes little girls to love on them, but sex isn't they way to get or show attention at that age.

Good answer!

Children are curious..It feels good to be touched.Its completely natural for children to explore..That being said its the adults responsibility to know right from wrong and control the situation...Its the Adults place to stop said activities in a manor that is natural for the child and not traumatic...If you allow it or get sexual satisfaction out of it then you are the Monster plain and simple you know it...