I am a married, female sex addict and am terrified

Thank you everyone who posted to this... I check it daily and get a lot of support knowing I'm not alone and considering all of the things you tell me. I'm not "happy" that there are others who deal with this; but since I'm not, I'm glad to connect to others like me on here. I don't feel like such a freak. Feeling like a freak furthers your desire to do these things because you feel alone.

Have you and your husband considered the cuckold-hotwife lifestyle? May be it can save your marriage

Have you considered the cuckold-hotwife lifestyle?

I am not familiar with this but I'll look it up. Can you tell me more about it? Any experiences?

I cannot believe someone recommended the cuckhld lilfestyle to you...or anyone. That just confirms my suspicious that many lurk in here hoping to satisfy their sexual quirks at the expense of others misery.

The solution is not to find sources to abet your poor behavior; but to make better choices for yourself and your marriage. It is easy for the SA to find quick fixes. Most of them involve altering the behaviors of others to satisfy the SA desires. It always - repeat always - results in the same dead end. The working defination of any addiction is that you need more and more of your addiction and get less and less satisfaction from it.

It sounds like you may have hit bottom and am ready for some changes in your life. You gut and heart are telling you somethign is wrong....go with that. Look for indivudual counseling and a 12 step program, such as SA or Celebrate Recovery. Get some accountability with a sponsor and start working the program.

In the meantime, ask yourself these two questions when you relaspe: What am I feeling right before I act out? What need am I trying to fill by doing this behavior?

Keep asking those questions and you will start to see inside your personal black box. If you are Catholic, I recommend going to confession and being cleansed. The road is long my friend - and you will feel more hurt before it is over. But the reward is peace and the ability to look in the mirror and like the person who looks back.

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Don't give up! Realize you cannot do this on your own. Find some additional help, you owe it to yourself and to your family to deal with the past. You have shared a lot of pain and hurt that you have gone through. Start dealing with that and realize your family loves you. It sounds like your husband is amazing and he can be your best support! Don't discredit that. Allow him to love you.

You deserve to be loved ... correctly!

Deal with the pain from the past so you can move towards a brighter future. You have a lot of worth. Help your children now! You recognize many things that are destructive to them. Don't repeat what has happened in the past by allowing them to see it on the computer. You can do it! You can!

Hey krista. What area you in? Send me a message girl. Keep your head down in my lap and your butt in the air girl.

Krista,

We are in a very similar place. I have been married for 7 years now and cannot stop thinking about sex. I will go to work and wish I could surf porn when I should be working. Luckily my work computers will not allow it, but I still find ways around it with google image search, etc. I have 2 kids and am very happy in my marriage. I am attractive so I have more opportunities that I wish I did not. I have begun to think of these differently and started to look for one night stands telling myself that if I leave emotion completely out of the equation, it would not be as hurtful for my wife if she finds out. I too am struggling to control my urge on a daily/ hourly basis. You are not alone. This is my first post, yet I am comforted to know I am not alone. Best of luck to you!

Hi Krista,

I know that your post is an old one, but as a male, I wanted to write you. Hopefully you are still checking this.

I'm in a similar addiction. I am happily married and my wife is absolutely amazing. If she ever found out, she would leave and I would be crushed. That being said, I can't control myself, and even scarier, I'm not sure that I want to. I have a girlfriend/slave that I've had for almost 3 years. We have a Master/slave relationship and I control every aspect of her life. I have met numerous other women and feel the rabbit hole swallowing me.

I have taken off work early today and spent the last 3 hours completely unproductively looking at porn, emailing random women, searching craigslist and I can't stop. I'm actually surprised that I'm writing this and taking time away from masturbating and surfing for women to cheat with.

I can't offer you any help. I just want you to know that there is a male out here that is addicted as well and doesn't want to stop.

Would you like to watch me?