I keep thinking about raping women *trigger warning*

I fantasize a lot like a lot about raping women so they have to carry my babies. I know that's messed up but idk what to do about it. I have never had sex and I don't think I'm likely to do it.

Hello and welcome!

I suppose this could be construed as some sort of paraphilia or fetish- both of which are things we no longer allow as a main topic in Psych Forums- but it also might not, so I think for the time being we're able to discuss this.

wtfihatemyself wrote: I have never had sex and I don't think I'm likely to do it.

Do what, specifically? Sex in general?



To get the conversation started... Do you have an idea of what aspect of the fantasies appeals to you? Such as for example, would you think it is something to do with imposing your will, or a desire to possess some characteristic you associate with impregnating women? Such as assertiveness and a commanding nature or something?

My opinion on sexual fantasy is that it can get pretty weird without necessarily being something that is part of your core being, something that you must have in the real world, or would even want, or want to do in the real world. Many of my sexual fantasies contain situations that would be horrifying for me to experience in the real world, and in no way would I wish for them to have really happened to me, yet I will construct worlds around the unpleasant sexual event. I can't say I've ever fantasied (or dreamed, for that matter) forcible rape from the point of view of the perpetrator. As the victim, oh yes, frequently. I should note, however, that in my case I am a submissive and for me, fantasies in which I am dominating, abusing, etc., are rare. Rare, but not completely unknown to me, either.

I do rarely entertain taboo fantasies in which I am the perpetrator, rather than the perpetratee. Often those are half-awake continuations of sleeping dreams that I can only assume are very 'Freudian', to put it mildly. While I intellectually have no issues with finding myself in that sort of headspace, from a practical standpoint, I have OCD, and to indulge more than a little in any sort of taboo fantasy in which I am the perpetrator of the taboo sets up an unpleasant feeling. I know I'm not any such person who is what any reasonable standard would call 'predatory', but since ruminating, overthinking, and obsessing is my superpower as a person with OCD, I prefer not to dwell on fantasies where I'm doing things to others that are too outre. TL;DR- my comfort level is really low in that regard. But that doesn't mean the same thing as understanding that from a purely intellectual standpoint, I don't at all believe that the existence of a particular sexual fantasy such as what you have posted, means that you necessarily want to be that sort of person or really do such things. I mean, it might indicate that, but it isn't a given- your mileage may vary! Being OCD, I have had to teach myself that what I think isn't always what I would do. I have Harm OCD which includes intrusive thoughts of intentional harm to others, and with OCD it's easy to conflate mere thoughts with base drives and desires. And, no, they're definitely not always one and the same.