Cock fetish

Which interestingly enough doesn't interest me- with one exception, and it's about the girl, not the plumbing.

I understand what you mean but not sure it's a fetish. I have an unquinchable attraction to a friends penis for a couple of years. He's the only same sex I've had and it's only oral.He has told me he has no interest in women and I told him I have no romantic feeling for him. I enjoy sucking him more than him sucking me. Never had a desire till I saw his hard dick in HS.

So the questions are
is this a fetish... by definition..no (abnormal desire for a part of a body). Its not hardly abnormal.
, a pattern,.. dont know
am i bisexual, gay, straight, or what? More likely .."what". Because straight -gay is a spectrum
and we all fall on the continuum somewhere

By way of comment though let's pose other questions
Is it normal? Not if you are an avowed Str8 male , but otherwise sucking cock is normal for OVER 50% of the population
Is it straight behavior. No.
Is is aberrant...NO! Its fairly common (more than 50% again)
Is it Gay. No because in includes female desire.

It is IMHO just a slightly more evolved , rather kinky, healthy sexy mind at work or perhaps -play.

I am biased though... I am , or have been much the same. And those thoughts evolved over time after I gave myself permission to be a bit "pervish". My term for me...not to be confused with real perversion.

I too went from , loving to see female on their knees from the rear and imagining I am her
to watching MF anal sex. I was NOT intersted in anyone touching my ass though. And my how things have changed.. I am submissive with men, a versatile bottom and LOVE having my rear rimmed, and especially, ESPECIALLY, prostate play. These are the best orgasms ever. Like a women...over and over, higher and higher. All becasue I gave myself "permission" to be a bit kinky, a bit non missionary only . Permitted myself to accept I am not gay but simply love sex. I like pleasing men and my how they can please me! But women have reserve for my head, mind, heart. Just the way it is and I no longer feel weird about it.

Hope you can give yourself permission to just be, without label, and live up to your full sexual potential.

Cheers

Well said, Henri.u Sounds as if you got this thing whupped. Wish more people had that laid back attitude.

This thread was interesting to read. At first i spiked and was tempted to just ask for reassurance. But then i calmed down and just read it all.

Cool insights it's sad that people apply too much meaning to thoughts or labels. If it wasnt the case people like myself wouldn't get anxious about becoming gay or bi from an intrusive thought or something, neither would have power.

I could blame ocd but it's the need for certainty of labels that kills you. You guys don't care and that's empowering for you.

I identify as straight and don't desire being with dude but why should I care if that ever changed. As i write this my minds trying to justify what i said so i dont appear in denial. Oh wait haha.

Thanks for your comments it doesn't solve my ocd or my obsessions but it certainly helps.

Snap I didn't realise this was the sex addiction section, I thought it was the ocd or sexual forum. Sorry.

It's okay, although I don't recommend this forum as reading for anyone with sexual OCD issues. Something to take away from this thread, implied even if not said explicitly, is that most of the bi./gay guys I know were aware fairly young that they were into messing around with other guys. So I don't put much stock in spontaneously bursting out gay without there having been foreknowledge that it was a turn on. I'm OCD too, but I have experienced anxiety because I was Bi, not because I might be bi. There's a difference.

Snaga wrote:It's okay, although I don't recommend this forum as reading for anyone with sexual OCD issues. Something to take away from this thread, implied even if not said explicitly, is that most of the bi./gay guys I know were aware fairly young that they were into messing around with other guys. So I don't put much stock in spontaneously bursting out gay without there having been foreknowledge that it was a turn on. I'm OCD too, but I have experienced anxiety because I was Bi, not because I might be bi. There's a difference.

Thanks for the advice Snaga I will stay clear of here to avoid spiking. What you say makes a lot of sense, I do recall thoughts in the past but there were rare and felt more intrusive, but with the way I am now and how been perceiving things (not being sure if I'm checking out guys or checking), it's easy to weave a story or secret denial behind suppression and putting up with women.

However, that just seems too irrational. Surely one cannot hold something like that for so long without acting out. Anyway, I fight on, despite all my doubts and fears and wanting to just give in to my thoughts (as in give up).