Question concerning keyholding.

I would like to know how most people would react to the following scenario, and men and women of any sexual orientation or religious belief are free to answer:

We are friends, and I am a single male. One day I invite you to hold the keys to my portable safe and refuse to return them to me for at least a year.

What would be your response in thought, words, and actions?

Supposing you refuse without knowing more details, so I tell you that the safe holds the keys to my chastity cage, but that I will keep the safe with me for safety reasons (the right professional could bust it open in a medical emergency). Also, since I am a heterosexual male, it would prevent you from tempting me if you are a single heterosexual female.

What would be your response?

Supposing you still refuse without knowing more, I tell you that I have a sexual addiction that I am trying to learn to control.

What would be your response?

As a heterosexual female, I would say trying to deny your sexuality is not the road to psychological health or happiness. You can let it express itself in healthy ways, or unhealthy ones (do as I say, not as I've often done, lol).

Thanks for the response, pistils.
Unfortunately my sexual relations have been anything but healthy. An escort holds the keys right now and as it turns out she is actually sexually attracted to me (we have had free sex three times already!). This is why I need to find a more trustworthy key holder who would not be sexually attracted to me or at least to whom I could not be sexually attracted.
As for not wearing a belt at all, that is not an option until I develop my self-control. I am seriously addicted to prostitutes at present, and do need some kind of protection sgainst myself until I learn to have healthier sexual relations. I figured a year would be a reasonable cool down period.

My response would be that I would refuse. I'm not comfortable that you're making me responsible for your sexuality. And as for "tempting you." That would probably cause me to cool / avoid the friendship completely. If you have that little control, then I wouldn't feel safe around you.

On a practical level. Could you get a safety deposit box. At a bank or storage facility. And keep the key there? That way, you'd have to go out of your way to unlock it. But you still have responsibility for yourself.

As an aside. I agree with pistils. I don't personally see this as a good way of learning healthier sexual relations. It's running away from the issue. I think long term success would be in facing the addiction head on. And working through the issues that are coming up for you.

I'm just naïve, I guess, but I would have said yes to the first request. After that I would have had the same reaction as pistils: I don't think that it would be healthy for you, even if you have a sexual addiction.

Thanks everyone.

Ada, as for 'tempting me', I meant more within the context of mutual attraction.

That said, I think I might have some wires crossed here. I actually had considered putting the keys to the safe in a bank safe or post office safe, and then keep the key to that. As I thought about what was holding me back, I realized that I do not really want anyone else to hold the keys, but rather a specific other person. I think it's a conflict within me whereby I do not want a sexual relationship with this person but only a friendship, yet feel sexually attracted to her at the same time. Essentially I am consciously trying to use the device to impose abstinence while then undermining myself by giving it to precisely the person I am sexually attracted to and so make a kinky sex toy out of it. I can't even get that right!

The good news is that it has certainly reduced my sexual partners to only one, and as a result a certain degree of romantic intimacy set in, which I actually feel very uncomfortable with.
Anyway, I guess that is for me to figure out.
Thanks again.

-- Thu Dec 18, 2014 1:42 pm --

Thanks everyone.

Ada, as for 'tempting me', I meant more within the context of mutual attraction.

That said, I think I might have some wires crossed here. I actually had considered putting the keys to the safe in a bank safe or post office safe, and then keep the key to that. As I thought about what was holding me back, I realized that I do not really want anyone else to hold the keys, but rather a specific other person. I think it's a conflict within me whereby I do not want a sexual relationship with this person but only a friendship, yet feel sexually attracted to her at the same time. Essentially I am consciously trying to use the device to impose abstinence while then undermining myself by giving it to precisely the person I am sexually attracted to and so make a kinky sex toy out of it. I can't even get that right!

The good news is that it has certainly reduced my sexual partners to only one, and as a result a certain degree of romantic intimacy set in, which I actually feel very uncomfortable with.
Anyway, I guess that is for me to figure out.
Thanks again.