I may have an addiction....

Hi all, i'm Molly from Leeds, England. I'm not great at putting things into words but I thought I need to get this off my chest so here goes!
I'm 24 and have had a 'sexual impulse' problem for around 3 years now ever since I got out of a bad relationship. I sleep with random guys on nights out, even when i'm sober, I've met numerous men online for casual encounters, and I've even lost friendships and split up relationships because of this problem. I was just hoping someone could help if they've been through something similar.
Cheers guys
Molly

Molly, I too have had trouble with my sexual impulses, through the years. I am 47 and male. I am married, but I have put a lot of strain on my marriage in the last 20 years and have lost a few friends, as well. I have had varying degrees of success in keeping my needs in check, from complete control to giving in. I think the thing that has helped me the most is when I had other things to distract me. That and a great deal of masturbating, which has kept my "energy levels" for acting out much lower.

Hello, Molly. I am going through a lot of the same things as you, too. Casual sex, unsafe sex, a lot of hurt feelings, including my own. I've been trying to find things to take up my time and take my mind off of sex, which seems to be the only thing that I like, anymore.

Hi Molly,
I also battle with sexual impulses and masturbation.You're not alone.
Ladychai

Hi Molly -
Welcome. You don't have to do this alone. Many of us are going through the same thing. I watch porn for stress relief, but it is also causing more stress in my life. The more stressed I get, the more I need it. It is a cruel and vicious cycle
Talking it out and training your mind to shift gears when it gets crazy is a behavior change that you can master. Diagnosing what makes us seek these thoughts can also help. A professional can decide the best course of action. Anti-depressants helped me stay the course while I went through therapy. The best therapists are those that have gone through the same battle as I. I listened to them because they seemed to have a handle on things when I felt out-of-control.
Anonymous (and free) help can be found in SA. These people shared many of the same things that I went through. I didn't feel so alone with my shame. If you stay long enough, you will hear your own story. There is a great power of healing and fellowship in the rooms. Male and Female. Best of luck to you.
http://www.saa-recovery.org.uk/meetings.html