Addicted to incest fantasies

by **Worried Man** » Thu Oct 30, 2014 11:41 am

[quote="Old Timer"]As soon as I read your post, here is what came to mind.
Was your mother domineering when you were a child?
Did she solve all of those childhood dilemma's that seemed so traumatic at a young age?
Did your father take a back seat in your upbringing?

You make some good points and some of them are true. Yes, my father took a permanent back seat as he was unknown to me. He left home a few years before I was born, so I am illegitimate.

My mother took little part in my day to day upbringing and pretty much left me alone to play with my friends, etc. We were never physically close, i.e. no hugging, etc. It was not part of our prevailing culture anyway. Mother was not domineering but she could have a temper if riled. I respected her, never afraid. All in all she was kind and considerate; old fashioned in many ways.

I do have other sex fantasy figures in my life and I do have sex with my partner, so I'm not empty in those departments. I have had affairs and one night stands, too. But they pale into insignificance compared to the thought of getting my mother upstairs into bed after passionately kissing her on the couch.

It is only fairly recently I have had these thoughts, but why now I keep wondering? The physical sex side of it is thought-addictive, not the psychical. The enigma continues...

I have had incest fantasies since I was about 25. Why they came on to me later I don't really know. I am 59 now.

They have been of virtually everyone, except my father, including mom, sisters, cousins, aunts, in laws, and so on.

I have tried to understand it, but because of so much early sexualization, plus my own internal wiring, I have just accepted it as who I am. I don't worry at all about it, nor do I feel guilty. Most people who are close to me know of it, and just think it's a sexual quirk.

I don't think you should feel so badly about it. It is just part of what makes you the you you are.

by **lovegadgets** » Fri Nov 07, 2014 3:28 pm

I'm a 50 yr old male and have fantasies about having sex with my mother who is also deceased. In the fantasy she is middle aged in her fifties. I too have used photo image software and masturbated to the pictures. When I've finished I don't feel good about myself and think what a crazy thing to do, but I always end up doing it again.

So pretty much the same as you although I don't have the father son fantasy.

by **Sproutt** » Thu Nov 27, 2014 4:03 am

Wanting to have sex with your mother is a well known and discussed concept. There's tons of information out on it It is called the Oedipus Complex and it was discovered by Sigmund Freud.

by **frustratedoldguy** » Wed Dec 17, 2014 6:10 am

Worried Man wrote:Thank you for your replies. Yes it is affecting my marriage in terms of less sex. I am not so sure about porn addiction per se. It id more an addiction to the thought of having sex with an older parent. The sheer pleasure of being in bed with an equally addicted mother is overwhelming at times. I have thought of meeting an older woman as a kind of substitute. Is this wrong I wonder?

That sounds exciting, but I'm afraid it wouldn't help because you would just displace your feelings for your mother onto a stranger. Then you wouldn't just have your present problems, but add adultery to the mix. I kicked my addiction by getting counseling. It look a LONG time, but when I realized where my thoughts were coming from, I quit illicit sex easily.

-- Wed Dec 17, 2014 1:19 am --

Worried Man wrote:Yes I did speak to my sister a long time ago but it was on the pretext of hoping to kiss her! She was not shocked but strongly hinted that I should be faithful to my wife. I thought it strange that she was not repulsed by the thought of me kissing her, just her thing about "unfaithfulness".
However after a late party at her place I stayed up until 4 or 5 am and we talked. You could feel the tension, all sexual on my part. When I left her at the door, we kissed each other fully on the lips. She just gazed at me quietly afterwards; I am sure she would have not objected if I leaned forward to kiss her again, but I was too afraid to try.
Afterwards I could not help thinking that intimately kissing my sister cannot be as taboo as people make out. What is the fuss all about? Yes, it could have gone further and perhaps it would have been a one off, passionate sexual encounter which we would have enjoyed. When I see her now she still expects a full kiss when I leave for home (about 70 miles away). I desperately want it to linger but what if....? She is also not happy with her guy, so that opens up even stronger fantasies.
You say you were involved in incestuous relationships when you were a teen. How did this happen and did anyone suffer as a result? I must say I am strangely envious. But is there a psychodynamic explanation for all these addictive fantasies we go through?

I think that the only REAL problem is that possible pregnancy would bad for everybody and mostly the child of such a union. Other than that, I don't see where it makes any difference who you kiss or even have sex with.

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