A mother with guilt

Till what age your son grew up with him ?

Sean was 12-16 when we lived there. I tried to talk to him this weekend and he was getting upset so I backed off. He has an appointment with the psychologist on Monday. I'm almost afraid because every appointment lately, he is opening up more and more. I hope all goes well for him. I'm nervous.

I hope the girl gets help...The sooner the better ; either way she's gonna be messed up....

He sounds like he doesn't care and was grooming her from the start- so trying to reason with him is ridiculous. He's also obviously relying on people to stay quiet- this is what people like him do..They know people will not tell so they keep doing it.

I'm sorry about what happened to your family and the girls. I recently learned a few years ago that both my sisters had been sexually abused by family members and never told. I somehow escaped the fire- I have no idea how but I am always thankful for it. I had no idea and honestly I don't think anyone around me did either unlike in this situation.

It's very difficult, and I hope everyone recovers and someone stops this John guy- because you are right he won't stop on his own.

Well here we go again. The other day my daughter Jeanine was reporting for work. While she was pulling into the parking lot She had noticed John standing outside the building it was between 2:30 pm and 3:00 pm. She also noticed that John saw her in her purple car. She parked and waited for him to go in. He did not. So she didn't want to be late and waited for a group of people to go in. She was able to get in with a group of men. What she did observe was John stared at her the whole time. As she approached the building and the door, she looked at the reflections on the glass windows which are 3/4's the size of the exterior wall. She felt very uneasy around him. He was staring in a creepy way. As she entered the building he was still staring at her. Then she was buzzed in and went to work. It is really a shame that someone like this is aloud to do this to girls and women. No girl or woman should have to go through this. Anyone for that matter, male or female. I am sorry that we allow this.

I took Sean to the psychologist on Monday. He is starting to remember more now. I noticed on Sunday when he remembered something. It was written all over his face that it wasn't good, he also began to shake. He then told me what he remembered. He remembers being pushed against the bathroom counter with John standing behind him. He finally told the psychologist the things he remembers. He is starting to remember at a very fast pace now. It seems to be good for him that he is letting it out. I hope all goes well for him. I want nothing but good things and his happiness for him. I am so sorry for ever letting that John person into his life. I feel responsible for this. I feel sorry for all who are involved with this John person. One day it will all end I hope.

sparklybutterfly wrote:Sean was 12-16 when we lived there.

Months?

Sean was 12 years old to 16 years old.

It was July 4 2014 weekend a year ago this weekend, that I started to bring Sean to his fathers for the weekend. Before I left the house I put on the cameras. I was partially on my way and then realized my daughter was on her way to the house from work. So I turned around and went home. This only took a matter of thirty minutes. When I got to the house John had already returned home from work. Amazing how his timing was every time I had to take Sean to his fathers. As time went on I had figured out what he was doing. We got in the house and John was surprised to see us and was eating some chocolate. I explained to him why I returned and then we made plans for the evening. A few days later I had reviewed the camera and not to my surprise at this point, John most certainly made other plans. He waited for me to take Sean to his fathers, then came into the house, he was texting someone and then went to the bathroom. When he got out of the bathroom he checked his phone for a reply and then texted again. He then became very giddy, childlike and began to open up the box of chocolates and say "a little bit of this" and then go on the computer and said "a little bit of that" and then he said "and I'm gonna get me some". I had checked his text records, he was texting his daughter Emily. The text records were at the same time of the camera recording. I at least stopped him from his deviant behavior this time but it was getting harder and harder and more dangerous for all involved. He started to get pissed off. We were stopping him from "getting some" with his daughter. Oops my bad. This was the beginning when me, my daughter and son were trying to get him to stop but in time we realized he was too far gone and had been doing this kind of stuff for quite some time. A very long time, not just with his daughters. There are other victims out there. My son actually wanted to get him help and he prayed for him. All that kid ever wanted was a good father figure and someone to look up to. He is now remembering things more and more and it is heartbreaking. Things I didn't know until now. I am still praying all goes well for all of Johns victims. He needs to be stopped. No one should have to put up with someone like John.

OK - I have read through your thread although I think that the situation is a lot more simple than it may be comig across as. This is because this guy is clearly a child abuser who sexually abuses children. This means that he needs to be dealt with as such and there will certainly be people who are interested in this in law enforcement. If it is difficult with the police then involve the FBI. If it is difficult with the FBI then international law enforcement such as Interpol. I think it is your responsibility to make sure someone listens. I appreciate that you might find that difficult but unfortunately that is the way it is. I can understand that those he has abused may not want to speak out but this will not be the first time the authorities have come up against this and it is not a reason to leave things be. Please keep pushing with getting law enforcement to pay attention - it is very important and unfortunately, whether or not you like it, it is something you need to do

Cracked

Yeah, I completely second what Cracked said about involving other organizations.

Reading your posts has been hard. What that guy did, and is still doing is...

Yeah, take care of your safety, and the ones of your kids, but don't leave his daughters alone. They are not saying much because there are so many conflicting feelings inside. The person who was supposed to protect them and love them has abused them. They may have conflicting memories and feelings towards them, and they may even dissociate to deal with what they are going through.

Try to provide the girls with information on how what their father is doing is wrong on so many levels. Send them information they can read, and have a different perspective to what they have gone through.

Don't stop on your quest to finding someone who listens. And the videos you've got, they should be prove, it is impossible that for that for the law the way those videos were got is more important than the content of those videos.

Be careful, but be brave too. Involve those who know around him, and all together act in defense of those girls, and anyone else who is in danger of that John.

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