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I'm not pretty enough so how do I feel beautiful

Postby caught_in_the_rain » Mon Jun 25, 2012 8:16 pm

I think I need to feel beautiful to be happy but I am not considered beautiful by most people and I'm even considered ugly to some. I hate that because I don't feel comfortable inside knowing there's people out there that find me repulsive. I don't find myself ugly but I have been told I was also I have seen guys scowl at me, look away from me, laugh at me, etc. I got a rhinoplasty, and it only made my self-esteem worse. I wear makeup, i straighten and dye my hair and I dress cute and am slim. I don't know what else i need to do to make people find me attractive. i dont even just want to be attractive though i want to be beautiful.

I see men look at a lot of different women from old to young, blonde to brunette, average to hot, and for some reason, i get completely ignored. i don't know what else to do but I want to be beautiufl. My sister also gets ALL the attention from both men and women and I get COMPLETELY ignored, that is not an exaggeration. I really think people must think i'm ugly because ifi was any type of attractive, i would get some attention, right?
So how do i feel good about myself? I can't except not being beautiful it seems. I don't think i have bdd, i'm not thinking i'm ugly and i'm not obsessed with my face. i just lack self-esteem and i really would like some male attention, like other women get.
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Re: I'm not pretty enough so how do I feel beautiful

Postby Onebravegirl » Wed Jun 27, 2012 4:05 pm

I dont think your appearance is why you are not getting male attention. The type of men you describe are Men like who like confidence, cheerful, energetic types.
There are many types of men hun. Some like quiet and gentle girls. Some like mousy girls who love donuts.
My point is that you need to find out who YOU are. What is it about yourself that you value? That you are proud of? Dont try and be like your sister, be like YOU.
Once you figure out who you are, then you can begin to figure out what you would like to be appreciated for. You are going to find certain types of men in certain types of settings. A guy you meet in a club for example will most likely be looking for a different type of girl than a guy in a quiet coffee shop.
And as far as beauty goes, remember Meagan Fox? Supposedly she was being labeled one of the most beautiful women in the world. Then she opened her mouth with all her conceit and it wrecked her career.
Beauty is a facade.
What do your thumbs look like? Meagan Fox doesnt have the prettiest ones in the world. https://encrypted-tbn3.google.com/image ... kOgg5b37yj
So there you go, you probably already have something going for you that she doesnt.
Start looking at what you have going for you and stop comparing yourself to others hun! You are lovely in all sorts of ways that others are not. SEE that in yourself and it will be noticeable to guys too.
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Re: I'm not pretty enough so how do I feel beautiful

Postby caught_in_the_rain » Thu Jun 28, 2012 12:30 am

i don't try to be like my sister - i am like me and i like it. i like megan foxes looks but i really don't care about thumbs??? come on. i like my own beauty except i got a rhinoplasty and right now, i'm not so happy. also, i feel no one else notices that i look attractive. i really think i'm just as pretty as my sister, but everyone else would disagree.
i dont know how guys can tell i'm insecure by looking at me, i doubt you would. also, i believe that a lot of women who are insecure get checked out.
i have walked around feeling attractive then seen guys looking at my sister over me, and yest my ego deflates but i still had been seen looking confident. i also hide my insecurity well because its embarrassing. But i've also been told that i'm just ok or that i'm ugly. That is what bothers me - how could someone insult me like that? i don't think i'm the hottest person or a 10 but i KNOW i'm at least as attractive as a lot of the women that i see getting checked out by guys.
and i don't compare myself to anyone, i just don't get attention that i need right now and it bothers me alot and i know most women enjoy the attention so lets not lie about it.
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Re: I'm not pretty enough so how do I feel beautiful

Postby nemoskull » Mon Jul 02, 2012 9:46 am

beauty comes from inside. its more that the external body, its the mind and how and what we do.
also, there are a lot of jerks in life who seem to like being mean.
there is nothing wrong with you, just focus on your strengths and try not to think about your weakness. it will show on the outside.

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Re: I'm not pretty enough so how do I feel beautiful

Postby caught_in_the_rain » Tue Jul 03, 2012 5:08 pm

No its not just from within, that's what everyone wants to believe, but its not true
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Re: I'm not pretty enough so how do I feel beautiful

Postby rainbow_sprinkles » Wed Jul 04, 2012 6:59 am

it is though. being physically attractive and being beautiful are not the same thing.
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Re: I'm not pretty enough so how do I feel beautiful

Postby nemoskull » Wed Jul 04, 2012 10:25 am

i did not mean to say its only on the inside. a toad will never be beautiful, but then again neither will a idiot, however pretty he or she is on the out side.

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Re: I'm not pretty enough so how do I feel beautiful

Postby caught_in_the_rain » Wed Jul 04, 2012 2:21 pm

don't insult me you don't even know me

also i mean physically pretty, attractive, beautifful

please i'm not here to argue/fight back and forth
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Re: I'm not pretty enough so how do I feel beautiful

Postby rainbow_sprinkles » Thu Jul 05, 2012 7:50 am

who insulted you?

what exactly ARE you looking for?
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Re: I'm not pretty enough so how do I feel beautiful

Postby caught_in_the_rain » Thu Jul 05, 2012 4:10 pm

My own family constantly HAS to make me feel less attractive than my sister. It's always been this way, that my sister is pretty "OMG! you're so prettyyyyyyyyy!!!!" huge smiles, then when it comes to me, "hi, how r u?" no big smiles. One time my cousin even asked me, "isn't (blank) so pretty?" Why would you ask me knowing that it would make me feel bad? my family not only thinks i'm ugly, but they disrespect my feellings as well. that's killing me twice. i said, "yes" what am I supposed to say, "no?" "kind of?" "what about me?" all those answers are wrong. i'm tired of being nice about this too.
people on the street kiss her ass sooo bad, it's sickening. do you do this? these girls at this store one time at the counter were so happy to deal with my sister, they were smiling and complimenting her stuff that she bought, all that and when it came to me tehy were like dead flat. Why? why do they have to be so openly rude??? you can't pretend at least and be nice to me as well? and its embarrassing in front of my sister, to have her see that. That I possibley am not worth as much as her? Also my little cousins they are girls and you know how yyoung girls like pretty older girls? they love my sister but they don't care as much about me for some reason. why? because i'm not pretty? I was driving and at a red light where some guy was waiting at a bus stop, no way was i interested in this person in a romantic way. I looked at him, just like you nhotice people sitting at a bus stop. He looked back at me, gave me this look of disgust and put his head down. I wanted to go out of my car and rip his face off. I didn't know what to do. but it's ridiculous because i'm not ugly. if you seen me you'd probably be surprised at what I'm telling you. Also i was at a bar a couple weeks ago and looked up at this guy he gave me this scowl and look of disgust. i hardly feel sexy anymore and my sex life is pretty much on hold.
I'm slender have pretty eyes, nice hair, nice skin. I'm tired of people TRYING to make me feel like $#%^. Why do this to me or anyone? i have so many other stories besides these.
I read on some other person's post that she was in class and this unattractive girl walked into a room and alllll the guys groaned as if her looks insulted them. :? What is THAT? Some guy responded saying the reason is because ugly women have no idea they're ugly and they will hit on them. so out of fear and to "protect himself" a guy needs to be insulting to "ugly" people. So guys must thiink i want to hit on them all the time. Not true at all, i have a specific taste in men and will not just go for anyone, especially by looks alone.
I get treated like crap, because I am unattractive to their eyes. It's ruined my life and i feel that it is hard for me to be happy inside because i know how people view me. I'm not perfect inside eitehr, but i'm working on it. working on my self-discipline, tolerance, etc. I'm not an angel by any means though. I also work on my appearance too, i get my eyebrows done, wear makeup, dress cute. I don't know what else to do. My self-esteem is crap.

Somebody help me, maybe someone who's been through the same?
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