I'm not good at anything

I don't know what's wrong with me. I don't feel like I'm good at anything. I'm always doing something wrong. I make a lot of mistakes in whatever I'm doing. When I was in school I made mistakes on my school work and now I do the same on my job. I have really a poor memory, Im always always forgetting things. I forget birthdays of people important to me, processes at work, and childhood memories. I just can't seem to remember anything, I honestly don't know how I made it through school and graduated with honors. I'm not good at anything because I make so many mistakes and am forgetful, I don't excell at anything. Oh, did I add that I'm introverted which makes for a very interesting life. I feel like I don't know anything to engage in conversation, everyone seems so much smarter and more informed than me or have more "mainstream" interests like sports, which I have never cared for. I was never popular, exceptionally pretty, slim or greatly talented. Although people now tell me I'm pretty, I honestly don't know what they are talking abot and looking at. I do like to sing and have been singing from a young age but I'm not a wonderful singer. I wish I was, there are so many good, amazing singers who sing with such ease an mesmorize people with thier talent. My little voice is nothing and very shy as well, it's the people who like to shine who make it using thier talent. I don't have any shine.

I also don't know what I want to do with life. I feel like a waste of time and space. I have a degree in something I'm not even interested in or good at. I should have changed my major or listened to my I initial advisor. Oh well! I lost my job a
while back, it was an internship. I don't think I will ever feel good about myself after that I had to come home from overseas, it was the worst period of my young little life. Feelings of shame, worthlessness, and failure engufed me and have never really left. Even though I have a part time job now, I still feel like a failure. I felt like I let everyone down.
Now I'm interested in pursuing something else totally opposite from my background and education but I'm afraid it will end in failure.

You're not good at anything because you're introverted.
You're introverted because you give too much of a $#%^ about peoples opinions.

People Respect results.
How you get them is hardly relevant.
Whenever someone says something about your way of doing things point out your achievements and ridicule theirs.

Now I'm interested in pursuing something else totally opposite from my background and education but I'm afraid it will end in failure.

Hi bgirl100, hey look at me I dropped out of middle school it's good you have some education in this crazy society I think you could do what ever you put your mind to so just go try it out - what is it exactly?

I sometimes feel like that so my councellor gave me this advice.

Buy a notebook, something pretty or that you like. It is important to choose a nice notebook. Mine is blue with a smiling cloud on it because it is small and cute. Every evening sit down and think of at least one good thing you did that day. Or something that made you smile or feel good about yourself.

Sometimes I can only write something like I got out of bed or I went for a walk but even these little things will make you realise that you are doing something. When I read back over it I can find things that made me proud of myself even if it was just that I got out of bed. Start with really little things and build them up.

There will be many things that you are good at but you never realised. Also if you find conversation difficult try going into a shop and asking an assistant where something is. Even if you already know where it is. I have actually found that very useful. It is terrifying at first but knowing that if it all goes badly you are unlikely to ever see that person again helps a lot.


Just some ideas xxxxx

Hey, I was suprised at how much I am like you. Guess it's an aspie thing? Well, I feel exactly the same way and I sometimes say to myself "you're worthless" "You don't deserve to be here" or even "You're stupid". I feel so emotionally shut down... And sometimes it's hard not to believe myself. I feel like I make mistakes in any situation I have. I go in my room and cry; isolating myself from everyone, almost like a recluse. My life feels worthless and I feel stupid and different from other kids. I easily get this way, and I don't like it when people try to help me. Lose-lose situation.

Sorry some of this doesn't really go with this topic, but I felt I had to get that out. Just don't worry and know that there are more people like you. Think of this forum as your family, the only place I feel comfortable expressing my feelings to.

I can completely empathise too. I have a masters degree, on paper a great education, but in reality feel so so low about myself I often find it hard to do anything. I'm told i'm 'pretty' too, but for some reason it is just a word, nothing i actually associate myself with. I am trying something called emotional freedom tapping, you should youtube it, to get rid of the negative emotions. Good luck

The worst thing you could tell someone such as yourself would be "there are so many people who have a much harder life with less favorable circumstances, so consider yourself lucky". I HATE that type of advice; I find it to be insulting to my intelligence when I hear that type of b.s. because obviously I know there are women out there with no degree, no home, no money, etc. and yes are in a worse position then I am in. Unfortunately, my mind cannot allow me to feel any different with that known information, so please let me be unhappy and let's find out WHY? I have a similar feeling about myself. People see what I just cannot make myself see. I am told constantly I look like Kim Kardashian, who I think is gorgeous, but when I look at my face I don't see that at all. I am 5'2 and 125 lbs and think I look repulsive and fat. I used to be heavy as a teenager, I am now 25 and still feel like that chubby girl with braces. My whole life I wished and prayed to be thin; and now I am and feel even more unhappy then I used to. When I was in high school and dually taking college courses, people noticed I was smart and exceptionally good at Calculus. Now, I have my degree in business and am in charge of an entire office, yet people now only notice what I look like. It's like a catch 22- when I have chubby and not as attractive, I was considered to be an itelligent person, now that I am no longer unattractive, people never take me serious! Again, these problems must sound ridiculous when comparing them to others, however, I feel depressed beyond control and feel empathetic to your situation. Why is it I can't ever be HAPPY?!? I am also a mother and worry this will affect my 4 year old son. He is brilliant, loving, and truly good-hearted for such a young man; and my biggest fear is he will see me being depressed and will feel it is because of him . I found this blog through a desperate attempt to seek help with this. I googled "I don't feel good at anything". It does feel a tad better being able to express your feelings annoymously, being able to relate to people who feel what I feel; I plan to blog my feelings and hope to help and be helped in the process.

I googled this because this is how I've been feeling the past couple of days. I normally have a generally happy disposition. However at work my quarterly review came out and it doesn't look very good. I have the same problems as the gal who first started out this post. I am realizing that even though the job I currently have is Not the job of my dreams, it is hard, demeaning and destructive to the self esteem to be told you are lousy at it when you are giving heart and soul to it. Granted, my employer deserves the best person they can find. if I was the employer I would search for the best person to work for me. I am told by many clients they are glad I am there. It's because I really truly care about each person I talk to. But, I need to lessen the time I spend with each client, so I can see more people and the company can make more money. It drives me berserk. I would hate to talk to one of my coworkers, they are such "salemen". My life would be easier if I didn't care about people, but the fact is I DO care! I cannot go against my gut and give them bad advice. I would get literally sick if I did that. My supervisor told me she quit being nice to me because it didn't motivate me to change. I feel even less motivated to change now! Anyhow, I know there are so many people out there who think no one cares about them, but it is simply NOT true! Even though you may feel unimportant or uninviting (in your own mind) you never know who you impress, or how giving a little word of cheer here and there will be so important to someone else, and give them that little bit of hope they need! Anyhow, I just want to say that I CARE! Hang in there and we will all get through our ups and downs together! :0)

There are days when I feel the same. I mess up everything and I feel like a complete idiot. Today, my friend told me something I'd never forget. It's not something to really freak out about but it did hurt me. Anyways, today I was with my friend (she's female and so am I) and she had a little ball that belonged to another person. It costed that person $.5.00.It broke and she didn't want anyone to know it was her that broke it. Another girl asked who broke the ball and I told her that my friend broke it. Then my friend was like "you should've never told her. She wouldn't have figured out it was me and now I have to pay for it! And you call yourself a friend!" I then noticed that I've never really had friends. I've been a shame to everyone.

I feel so much like this and I'm 19. I feel like everyone is good at something and then there's me. I feel like such a loser sometimes. I think to myself, why am I even here? I'm worthless. There are so many things I like but when I try them I feel like I'm no good. I've felt like this since I was younger and I don't know why. I get so sad thinking about it. I feel useless and I don't know how to deal with it on the days that it's all I think about.