I'm not good at anything

Being ordinary is sometimes the best thing one can be good at and in this age, ordinary-ness brings with it the possiblity of stability, grounding and comfort--priceless luxuries which many people, who run after money and materialism or gossip do not have.

Ordinary-ness

is truly a precious commodity


Please try to tell yourself that you are versitile. Civilization needs versatile people who can do more than one thing. You do not have to excel, just be versitile.

You are as the Universe made you and that is good.

Much of what society feeds us is utter swill. Don't listen to it. Don't buy into it.

Appreciate all the things you are.

Cate68

I agree with the original poster. I, also, am not good at anything.

I may have some aptitudes, but I have no abilities to go with them.

I have always been no good, and no matter how much effort I exert, I can never be any good.

I did as the other person before did, I googled "I'm not good at anything" because this is how I have been feeling for quite some time. I'm a psychology student reaching the end of my degree and the feedback I have been receiving has been mediocre. It has been this way since I started this degree 5 years ago (I took a gap year to work). I've tried to get more involved in university life, doing student mentoring sessions with first years, attending undergraduate conferences (I presented at one recently) and going to the occasional social event.

I'm in my late 20's and the majority of students on my course are between 18 - 24 and though age has never been an issue for me I feel like a failure because everyone else is so much more involved than I am, I am on my way to 30 and I still don't know what I am good at or where I am headed. They are all close friends, they have all established friendly relationships with their tutors, some are "student ambassadors", some are organizing the graduation ball, others are doing voluntary work and getting their feet in the door to start their careers. I have noticed a severe shift in my personality since I left home and moved away for university, particularly in the last couple of years. I am not as engaging in conversations, I lack interest in other people apart from a select few close friends, I tend to stay in when I get invited out, I am losing motivation for working out which is something I enjoy.

I work as a barista/waiter part-time and while the job is relatively un-stressful and enjoyable I'm struggling with the minimum wage and unpredictability of hours. It is become increasingly difficult once I leave uni and have to pay council tax. If I move back home i feel it will only get worse as my parents are on the brink of divorce and my close friends are also facing hardships with marriages crumbling and lack of decent jobs to support their families.

It just feels like everyone else knows their place, or at least knows what's coming next for them. I really don't know. At this rate I am lucky to end up with a 2:2 in my degree and while I can still pursuit something with that, if I don't get it all I will have to show is 10K of debt and no way to pay it back and on £6.40 an hour that's not possible. My partner is incredibly ambitious and is already at the top of his game as a PhD student.

Anyway I'm glad I found this thread so I could vent a little, I see there hasn't been a post in almost a year so I hope you have all found your way since then. Thank you to the original poster for starting a dialogue.

I'm glad I found this forum, I (along with many from what I can gather) found this post while Google searching 'I'm not good at anything'. That's how I feel pretty much all the time.

I play ukulele and guitar, but I'm not good at it. I like to sing, but I can't actually sing well. I do okay in school, but it's not like any of that stuff really means anything or is a skill, it just seems like useless knowledge which you can't utilise in the 'real' world.

I don't have a massive social life, I have a few friends but I don't go out with them all the time and 'have fun'. To me, fun is just staying in my bedroom alone, listening to music. I have social anxiety (or at least it feels like it) I know that's off topic, but it's really restricted me, and made me feel like even more of a failure.

I'm not pretty, nor am I skinny or have a nice body which people would consider attractive. I just feel ugly and fat. It's not like anyone really takes any of this seriously though, I constantly get told that I'm just socially awkward, or shy, but it feels like more than that. It's like, am I not even worth taking seriously? I just wish I didn't always feel like this, I just feel like people are doing stuff with their lives, and I'm sat doing nothing, wishing I could be anyone but myself. Everyone seems to know what they want to do with their lives, they have so much ambition, and I literally have none. Life just seems so pointless.

I'm supposed to be taking some new classes next year, and I chose graphics and media studies, hoping that no one I really knew would take them, unfortunately for me, pretty much everyone I know wants to take them. This may seem off topic, but I'm just so anxious that I'll be terrible at both of them and look like an idiot. I just know that everyone else will do so much better than me and I'll just end up failing them. That's going to be great for my already #######5 self confidence.

Anyway, I know that this is an old thread, and there's only been one other post this year, but I just feel really down at the minute, and I needed somewhere to vent. Sorry if I've gone too off topic, but I just really needed to type this all up. I hope that no one ever has to feel this way, but obviously people do.

Could you look at it as an exciting quest to find what you're good at and feel great doing? An excuse to try more things you would not normally attempt. At the same time, you will be distracting yourself from your self esteem issues, as well as doing fun things, one of which you may discover to be your calling!

I feel an inferiority complex all the time.I dont have any hobby, neither do I have a talent which I can harbor. Im not handsome and really weak physically. When I was in high school I was a fat geek who was bullied all the time. Now I just go unnoticed in the society. I think how I got into med school. I'm really having personality issues. sometimes I just fell like to hurt myself. Just hanging in here hoping to see better days.

I totally understand how you feel. I've felt this way for almost 2 years now, and I still feel the same. I'm just not good at anything at all. I can't sing, I can't dance, I can't draw, I can't write stories/poems, I can't play sports, I can't play any instruments, like I haven't met ANYONE who can't do anything at all, like me. Everyone I know is good at SOMETHING. Like maybe speaking another language, making their parent's proud, making friends, having conversations, cooking, decorating, creating cute outfits, always scoring great on tests, etc. Everyone I know is good at SOMETHING like I said, but I'm honestly not good at anything at all.

Here's a description of me: I really do love to sing along to songs, but I can't sing. Singing along to songs gets rid of my stress but I wish that I could really sing, I can't sing. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE to draw, but I just can't draw which is always the reason that reminds me of how I'm not good at anything. I WOULD love to dance since it seems like I could just forget about everything and just dance, but I can't dance, I tried learning some dance moves from my favorite songs but I just can't do them correctly. I would love to play an instrument, but I just can't learn. (I have a flute and I took band class in school for a year but I just can't play it correctly. My mom also has a keyboard that she lets me borrow but I just can't play it. I don't know how to explain it, I just can't.) I wanna be good at a sport, but I'm just not athletic. I also don't know how to swim which makes me feel horrible about myself when we have to swim in my school for 2 weeks in the beginning of the year and then 2 weeks at the end of the year. [sorry for going off topic but I just really need to let this all out somewhere...] I used to always write stories when I was little, but I never got better at it and I also don't understand how people write poems. I have NO CLUE how people's minds just work like that and could write poems. I can't cook or bake anything. I can't have conversations with anyone, all my conversations have awkward silences that last for minutes. I can't make friends because I can't have conversations. I'm not smart even though I take all honors. I never understand what the teacher is teaching either because I just don't understand the topic, or it's because I don't understand the words they are using. I can't understand people when they word their sentences a little weird (you know, like how Shakespeare writes, kinda?) and I also don't know a lot of words that people use. Like there are very simple words that everyone knows and uses daily, but I don't. So, I just seem even more dumb than I already am. I could just sit here and type out everything that people in this world are good at that I'm not good at so you would get how horrible I am at everything but nobody has that time. So, just try to understand that I'm a person who is not good at ANYTHING AT ALL. Not even boardgames, being creative, idk, I'm just terrible at everything. And what makes it worse is that I have nobody to talk to about it, which makes me feel alone and have no point in living. But like honestly, what's the point in living if I can't do anything for a living and I have no friends or family to spend it with?

Whoops, that didn't help at all. And I also know that this thread is super old, but I just needed to let this all out somewhere. Maybe somebody can relate to me? But, I don't think anyone can be this bad at everything like me. Everyone else has to be good at SOMETHING, except me... I guess I'm that one person in the entire world who can't do anything at all. Maybe this post will make you guys feel better about yourselves at least a tiny bit?? Because at least you can realize that you can do something, even if it's a tiny thing.