Please Help Me...

Hey, I am new on here and I don't quite know what to do, but I have come on here because my girlfriend is going through a really rough time at the moment, she is feeling very lonely and isolated from everyone....her family....her friends....me, i just really want her to be back to normal.
This is making here very low, she is always upset, gets angry and in general hates herself... Well this is how it seems to me, she would probably disagree but im worried for her and need some profesional advise...
Her family don't really give her attention at all, from my view everyone else in her family get the attention but she does not, this gets her down because she is very talented in whatever she does but yet gets no praise at all because her family believes she doesnt need to have any praise, i think this is really wrong...surely everyone deserves praise no matter how good they are at something?
She is always alone as well, her family are not in most of the time and i am not able to see her much because of other things such as schooling and her work and collage, i try as much as i can but with restrictive parents such as mine it becomes increasingly difficult to actually see her.
Her 'friends' don't really treat her right at all, they only contact her when she contacts them first and they dont really confide in her at all, they are not very good friends to be honest.
I just really need some help to help her gain herself back because im afraid she might change into someone different because of it all, i know its probably hard to give advise on this but if you can it would be very grateful, i really do need help because im scared and worried.
Thank you very much
Luhnertic

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Hi luhnertic

It seems she need a great amount of help. So you need to be with herself every moment. May be she is passing through really hard time. So you have to first understand her and then response to her in a kind and lovely way. This happend when a person is upset with her life and also with her environment.

If her family isn't give any kind of attention to her so this time you need to give full attention to her.

Best way according to me : Give her pure love, may be she need your love at this situation.

Thnks

As a reply to Kasey K. your comment is valued and thank you for your opinion and concern, i have spoken to her maybe not turning every stone as you said but i suppose with what you have said i do need to speak more to her, i shall speak to her soon and tell her everything and anything that i am scared of about this whole situation in full detail, thank you for your adivce

Luhnertic

Thank you Ravine, I have thought this to but i find it hard to be with her as times of our daily and weekly schedule clash alot, maybe there are more times that i can go see her and i really know i should and i really want to as well, i am so concerned for her, maybe you and Kasey K. are right, Love and Honest can solve this, I will do this and I hope your advice proves to be true.
Thank you

Luhnertic

It must be hard watching from the side-lines and not being able to help. For a long time I felt similarly to your girlfriend. My parents spilt up when I was a kid and fought ever since, normally in front of me or my younger brother and I had a hard time trusting people. I never let people close to me and because of that I was always alone. But when I met my current boyfriend he managed to break through all my barriers and i never feel alone now.

I disagree with the other advice you have been given in that you don't need to be with her everyday mostly because she has to find the strength on her own to move on from this. She needs to stand up for herself and believe in herself. If I were you I would make every moment you share with her special and when you are not alone just send her a text or something so she know you are there thinking of her and bit by bit get her to realise she isn't alone and even id there is just one person out there who supports her - she isn't alone.

You will both get through this - you just need to be strong.

We have to remember that people are different we cannot compare from ones feeling with another. All the advice might be applicable. As I examined since her parents hadn't given her any attention, luhnertic as her boyfriend can help her out through comfort, love and praises.

luhnertic I advise you to praise her in everything she does. As much as possible talk to her once in while and help her expose to your friends and family but don't leave her alone. Always give her a positive rewards. She really needs your support in this lonely times. Always remind her that "You Can Do It". Empathize instead of sympathize.

Hi luhnertic,

You're such a good boyfriend because even the family and friends of your girlfriend doesn't treat her right, you are still there for her and is willing to fight for her. Our experiences, good or bad have an effect on us. The effect is similar to what we have experienced. Of course, a bad experience of your girlfriend from people that surrounds her creates that negative feelings. You need to clear her mind from those bad experiences. You can tell her that she is the only person that can help herself and she doesn't need to reflect her feelings from the actions of others towards her. Our reactions and feelings came from the content of our thoughts. So to change her emotions into something positive, she must change the way she's thinking.

luhnertic wrote:Thank you Ravine, I have thought this to but i find it hard to be with her as times of our daily and weekly schedule clash alot, maybe there are more times that i can go see her and i really know i should and i really want to as well, i am so concerned for her, maybe you and Kasey K. are right, Love and Honest can solve this, I will do this and I hope your advice proves to be true.
Thank you

Luhnertic

Hello luhrentic,

Addition for you, see also add your best and powerful intentions to help her. Keep think good. This will help you to become Flalwless. Can you understand what i mean?