Caring too much what other ppl think

Hi.

I care too much what other people think of me. I'm afraid to dance or act goofy, or to set myself apart from people.

I know there could be many reasons for this. Can you give me some hypothosese, and possible plans to overcome this?

Hi,

I used to be like this but there was one girl who kept giving the best piece of advice ever: "Don't care what other people think of you and just do what you want to". If you continue to think of this when you are in difficult situations, then you will eventually be able to be yourself more comfortably, and you truly will not give a damn what other peoples' opinions are of you.

Kevin

Hi,

I have one question, how often do you think about other people and find them goofy?
Of course, everyone depends on society and each has deverse levels of conformism. It should be connected with upbringing because parents give the basic patterns of our behaviour. In your case you should relax and try to express yourself in your new way with no fear and forget about other people, they don't think so much about you like you about them.

Hallo dear nzknight13,

its not easy to immediately shut your ears to what other people say, if you are a person who cares a lot. The best thing to start with might be to ask yourself, why you feel kind of dependent on other peoples thoughts. There must be some definition in your sub consciousness that think this way its the best way of developing a personality.

At some point in your life you must have programmed your mind in that direction. I guess you deeply decided that the opinion of others is the best feedback that you can have about your outer appearance in any case. Once you decide this, it starts to be important to satisfy every single person. Because you think that a good feedback of others equals a good personality/character/behavior etc. you subconsciously think the whole time "I have to satisfy everybody with my beavior --> hence this will show/ensure that I am a good person!

But what we forget about other peoples opinion is that they are A LOT. Every person is so individual that you cannot fulfill all expectations. If one is entirely happy with you, their will be at leas one who is very sad about this behavior.

"Most of the people don't use the opinion of another person, in order to get a feedback about her identity. They directly use other people's opinion to give form to their personality." (from: http://www.prosperity-inside.com/articl ... opment.asp)

People are diverse, you are unique. And again, why should you develop your personality according to others expectations, while others don't even care about your opinion and develop their own personality independent of others.

That way YOU force yourself to fit into THEIR ideas, while they keep the control on you and your behavior. Individuality and individual personality development is the only way to free yourself from others opinion.

P.S: this does not mean that nobody should ever care of what other people say, but its better to develop your personality from inside out.[/url]

[quote="Yanafaya"]Hi,

I have one question, how often do you think about other people and find them goofy?[/quote]

Not necessarily goofy, but I do tend to judge people. I've been thinking that maybe me judging other people makes me feel like they're judging me. Kind of like 'what you do to others, you do to yourself', and I've been trying to stop.

Thanks for that long post, Prosperity. It makes a lot of sense

Not necessarily goofy, but I do tend to judge people. I've been thinking that maybe me judging other people makes me feel like they're judging me. Kind of like 'what you do to others, you do to yourself', and I've been trying to stop.

Hello, how r u going nzknight? you're right and you know why it's been happened with you. Better to have an assistance for recognise problems clearly and try to solve them. Could you say me what exactly you'r trying to do, how you want to stop it?

hi
Caring other people about what they think about you is good thing but not good at all.
You should only take care of this if you respect others for thinking of yourself that you should give some services in such a way that doesn't hurt them.
Take care of your responsibility of service for mankind.
Thnks