Self Esteem killer

Well, I read the one about the breast size problem and I want to give a man's perspective:


When you don't think you measure up, you do not have enough confidence with Women. (and men, if you are that way) I never got married, and dated a few times, and had one successful sexual experience, but there was this time I had 3 chances to perform, but I couldn't. then I was "out".

I think it was because I felt like tiny tim. How can one ever have a good self esteem, especially if people know your size, or you have to strip naked in a situation, like a shower room, or to have sex with a woman?

What about being ridiculed in school because we were made to strip and shower for P.E.???

And every girl that knows me, or I think knows me is probably thinking "he's got a little one, I don't want him"

I can have good self esteem, until anything about my privates in involved, then I feel like crawling under a rock.

Hi,

I read your reply in the other thread where you agreed with me that breast-size in a girl doesn't matter. That's fine, but now you are the one who is worrying about a body-part and cannot see the reality that it doesn't really matter. I'm quite confidant that not every girl cares about size. Try to use your ability to see that breast-size doesn't matter, in order to see that penis size also doesn't matter.

Kevin.

I know, but I don't feel women feel the same way as I feel.

I feel like even the flat-chested girls only want men that are big down there.

I haven't had many women tell me that size doesn't matter. and if they do, I think they are just saying that to make me feel better.

But I am sincere when I say that a woman's attributes do not matter to me, as long as she is nice and clean.


Thanks for the response.

Not all girls / guys are as shallow as society tells us. Therefore, not all girls make a stance of only dating guys with large penises. I think that teenage magazines and the film industry have a lot to answer for, because they 'brainwash' youths into thinking that they are somehow inadequate. In the thirst for profit, however, common decency goes out the window.

Kevin.

well.. because im not a straight woman, i don't have a lot of experience with heterosexual sex, only one very short encounter that i didn't like, but that was because i just tried it as a last resort to prove to myself that i really am lesbian, it had nothing to do with his size. anyway, its true that a big penis isn't ideal for every woman. the vagina can stretch and contract over time depending on the size of what exercises it.. and the big ones that are often in porns would actually be painful to many women. many women experience some pain during intercourse is too large for her. it depends on the woman, but the clitoris is really where most need to be stimulated to orgasm. really master that on your partner, and i can't imagine many women complaining, especially if the clit is stimulated at the same time as penetration. most of the nerve endings are located around the shallow entrance of the vagina and the g spot can be easily stimulated by a penis by using the right angle and position because on most women its located at about fingers length in, easily reached by any penis. so, the angle and positions i think has alot to do with how it feels to the woman. there are also positions that allow for deeper penetration and if thats what she wants then you could maximize what you have with that.

Well-said osmosis - I think only a woman would know such things!

ON_THE_EDGE, I was thinking about this problem earlier during my normal day and thought that maybe you are looking for partners in the wrong places? I mean, different types of woman go to different places. For example, I wouldn't expect to find a partner in a night-club or disco (because I simply don't enjoy that scene). I'd be more likely to find a partner in university, and she'll probably be someone that studies a lot like me.

Kevin.

Well-said osmosis - I think only a woman would know such things!

ON_THE_EDGE, I was thinking about this problem earlier during my normal day and thought that maybe you are looking for partners in the wrong places? I mean, different types of woman go to different places. For example, I wouldn't expect to find a partner in a night-club or disco (because I simply don't enjoy that scene). I'd be more likely to find a partner in university, and she'll probably be someone that studies a lot like me.

Kevin.

Well-said osmosis - I think only a woman would know such things!

ON_THE_EDGE, I was thinking about this problem earlier during my normal day and thought that maybe you are looking for partners in the wrong places? I mean, different types of woman go to different places. For example, I wouldn't expect to find a partner in a night-club or disco (because I simply don't enjoy that scene). I'd be more likely to find a partner in university, and she'll probably be someone that studies a lot like me.

Kevin.

I don't get out much anymore, except shopping and PSR. I used to got to bars, and parties, and neither place Ii had any luck. The most I got was a close dance with some drunk gal, and her underarms smelled.

But if she was interested (not bad looking and not too heavy) I would've tried with her.

Hey,

That's typically further than I got whenever I went to a night-club! Then again, all I ever did was sit in the corner and sulk to myself. No, wait, actually, I remember a few times when I got 'lucky' on the dancefloor. Once, I just happened to be dancing beside a girl from Northern Ireland and she just blurts out: "What's your favourite Michael Jackson Song?". I said "The Way You Make Me Feel".

As it turned out, it was her favourite too. So, we requested the DJ play it - he did - and then we danced away and chatted for a while afterwards. She already had a boyfriend, but I could see that she liked me. It just wasn't meant to be.

Christ, that was many years ago now and I'm still missing her.

Kevin.