Confidence Help....

For starters I really hope I have this in the right section...

I guess I will start from the beginning so I don't miss anything out and you guys can have a better understanding of where I've came from up until this day.

From the age of 14-16 I would of called myself a bit of a stud. I always had girl/s liking me and it was wiked. I wasn't scared of makign convosation, meeting or do with a girl but it never got as far as sex. My friends used to call me pretty boy because I had a babyface and thought I moisturised and stuff, but I never did anything.

Upcoming to my 17th birthday I had an opticians appointment. I knew my eyes were bad but I never thought nothing of it. So when I went I found out I had to wear glasses for the rest of my life. Because my mum isn't the richest mum in the world. I was forced to choose NHS free glasses. Ever since that day girls didnt look at me, the current girls flittered away. Of course wearing glasses knocked down my confidence to almost nothing. I started to lose pride in myself such as hair, clothes I didn't care what I looked like cause I knew it wouldn't matter. As I became older all my friends started to get bigger, I dont mean fat but more musclier and started to look like men. Whereas I grew (because of testerone jabs) but have stayed skinny and I'm now 19 and the only thing that has changed about me is probably a little ages skin from smoking and a few spots.

I recently quit smoking and got a job working part-time in a pub while at college studying IT and have tried to give myself a makeover. New clothes, contact lenses, hair style. I have even replaced washing with regular soap for a cleanser and a toner to help my skin to become clearer again and it is working. This all has taken place within the last month.

I am just lost to figure out where all this confidence has gone from to where I was 15 and up until now because theorictly I look like the same guy but obviously look older. It's like I go clubbing with my friends most weekends and I dance and I feel confident as hell but I don't dare go up to a girl and dance or talk to them like I would when I was younger. I thought it might of been because of my spots, but I looked at people my age and they have the same if not MORE including girls so I've got over blaming my spots for loss of confidence, and the same for glasses too because of contacts but I still feel unconfident. Most of my friends are 18 have worst skin than me and still hav bags of confidence and I still feel like I did when I was 17 but just now I look visiually better.

Will my confidence grow back? Could I do anything about it? Or will it come naturally? Or have I just lost bottle cause I'm older?

I have lost most of my teen life through being constantly consious of factors about me and am desperate to feel what I did when I was younger because I loved it!

Thanks for taking your time to read my story...

Happy New Year, Brad

I will go out on a limb on this one. Your buddies are ######6 there brains out, and your left in the dust. Are these girls at least interesting? Having a one night stand doesn't build confidence. It gives you a Personality disorder. Not nailing the pathetic chicks your friends do makes you special. It gives you the ability to have a long term healthy relationship.

that and other things :S ...

what you are doing is awesum, giving yourself a make over, good stuff, and im sure you still are better looking than most of the scum out there, (forget about the sex because i think you just want to date again) your doing the right stuff, just continue down the road my man, start talking to girls slowly, ask them if you think you have the right shirt, or if they like your new hair due, nonchalantly though we dont want to come across like some stuck up plastic ###$ *nods* just let them build your confidence, you had a tough break with the glasses, but i think youll be right as rain once you get on with it, dont let it hold you down you have a job, you feel better in your clothes etc, the confidence will rise just stay true to yourself *nods*

thats the best i could do hope it helped if only a wee bit *nods*

the best of wishes,

TM

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confidence and self-esteem are related. Regarding with your problem, you can find help from self-help books like the "Fabulous Self-Esteem" by Amy Twain. I already have that book to which I keep on reading again and again every time I feel down. It uplift your spirit. I have just downloaded that from www.fabulousselfesteem.com