I used to be unable to handle any type of criticism. Everything anybody said began to feel like criticism after awhile.
It was partly due to a large ego and little self-esteem. It was also due to being too close to mom and having severe depression when I lived at their house under their roof.
I began to feel better about myself and was able to handle criticism better after quitting drinking and receiving treatment for depression and anxiety. I was alcoholic and felt bad about myself for that.
Sometimes a disagreement will flash me back into the past feelings, but I don't stay with that feeling for very long. It used to eat me up and I was constantly angry and depressed about any kind of disapproval at work or at home.
Criticism can be used to control you in a relationship. It can be used to keep you from moving forward with self-improvement.
The amount that criticism affects you can vary. There is no set amount. If you feel that it is intolerable, do a personal inventory of yourself and go with it to a professional for an evaluation.
Best of luck to you.