I need help

Hello everyone hope you all are not having a bad day.I'm in some "crisis"right now.Let's just get on with it,My problem is that I don't quite have any talents or good at anything.I mean I can draw good,but by good I mean normal person good nothing like those amazing artists on instagram or YouTube,I some times even get compliments from people but no amount of compliments is ever enough for me.I can also do makeup and nails but i always hate how my works look like.I can do these but none of those are international level good.So this really bothers me.And also I always keep seeking the ways to be appreciated by other people always looking out for compliments and stuff.I'm just never happy with myself.So yeah any help?

Hi laurahills666,

One of the most important things you can and must do for yourself is to stop comparing yourself to other people. You are unique and you are not meant to be like anyone else. When you say you can draw but just 'normal person good...' what you class as normal might be way better than you think. Honestly, my drawing is worse than a 5 year old's... I simply can't draw but I don't focus on that. I choose to focus on my good points and you obviously have talents and skills, and people are even complimenting you on them, but instead of smiling and feeling good about yourself, you choose to reject them and keep putting yourself down. Stop doing this... decide that you are who you are and you are good enough - at least as good as the next person, because you are. If you keep constantly telling yourself otherwise, this is what your subconscious is picking up on. You have to change that programme by constantly changing the way you think and talk to yourself.
Hope that helps!
Maria

laurahills666 wrote:Hello everyone hope you all are not having a bad day.I'm in some "crisis"right now.Let's just get on with it,My problem is that I don't quite have any talents or good at anything.I mean I can draw good,but by good I mean normal person good nothing like those amazing artists on instagram or YouTube,I some times even get compliments from people but no amount of compliments is ever enough for me.I can also do makeup and nails but i always hate how my works look like.I can do these but none of those are international level good.So this really bothers me.And also I always keep seeking the ways to be appreciated by other people always looking out for compliments and stuff.I'm just never happy with myself.So yeah any help?

saying that you need help is a good thing. it means that you recognize the things you want to adjust/change/better in you. how about trying to accept what you are "good" at and be appreciative of it? when people commend you, it means that you are really good. believe in that.
have you tried talk therapy?

Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Not many people are able to do this. My own ego kept me trying to fix things myself and it was futile. It kept me sick for many years.
Asking for help saved my life.
Best of luck to you.

Before you seek appreciation from others, appreciate yourself first, we all have our uniqueness. Just continue to do the things where you are good at, everyday you will improve as long as you put love on what you're doing.