Do you ever get the feeling that nobody likes you?

Hello everyone - I'm new here...
I'm feeling overwhelmed with feelings of self-loathing, and I don't know what to do. I have always known that I'm not the most popular person, that people find it easy to put me down, but I thought I had gotten over it.
Recently, my best friend of 9 years, who I believed understood and knew me better than anyone, decided to stop talking to me. Another friend has told me I am too needy and demanding, and that I take everything too personally.
I'm 48, never married, no children, moved away from my home country for a new start, and I'm still lost and alone.....
Here is the question - how can I stop being too intense?
Tonight I feel so depressed. I have become such a strong person due to major life problems over the years, but I feel so weak now.
Can anyone advise and reassure me? Can I change at 48?
Thanks
Joanne.

First of all I would like to tell you that I love you. Simply as a being. I think that you unconcioussly put weight on your back and keep on beating yourself for being who you are. Perhaps you can be too emotional at one point or another but the role of your 'true friends' is to discuss that with you once they feel uncomfortable with your behavior. Both of you would then discuss things and reassure each other about the state of relationship. And I speak not only about friendship but also about love relationships. Proper communication is the most crucial thing. Sometimes things as little as changing workplace or internal problems at house may cause people to be less patient with the ones they cared for. Sometimes, personal doubts, insecurities, depression may cause people to care less for others and focus more on themselves. You must always assure that somebody is only and only a human. Prone to hurt, sensitive to damage, easy to manipulate and frustrated about lack of explanation for many things in life itself. In my country, sadly... there is even a saying 'don't worry, people used to, do and will come and go'. Another important one is a saying repeated at times by my grandmother: "Don't be happy or sad for the things you can't control. They may backfire at you". And that's very true. Don't take some things for granted. I'm 25 and I've learned that there's no such thing as a true friendship nowadays. Not in today's world. People are too selfish and judgemental of others. They have problems resolving deeper problems and prefer to dump the issue once it erects before them. To heal... you must perhaps view things from different perspective. Judge them by the prism of 'who leaves somebody whom they have known for 9 years just like that?'. Perhaps those people never treated you seriously.

Thank you so much for your reply. It helped me feel better, as did my own positive thinking today. It's funny, but my best friend actually got in touch today as well. We have a lot to work through, but I hope we can be close again.
Regarding the other friend - if I'm honest, she doesn't mean much to me anyway. I was just raw and sensitive yesterday, and it seemed to happen at the wrong time. I will continue to be myself, and those that don't like me can go away.
I hope you have a good day, and I love you too, just for being a kind human being.

JoBell69 wrote:Thank you so much for your reply. It helped me feel better, as did my own positive thinking today. It's funny, but my best friend actually got in touch today as well. We have a lot to work through, but I hope we can be close again.
Regarding the other friend - if I'm honest, she doesn't mean much to me anyway. I was just raw and sensitive yesterday, and it seemed to happen at the wrong time. I will continue to be myself, and those that don't like me can go away.
I hope you have a good day, and I love you too, just for being a kind human being.

You're welcome Stay strong and be yourself. There wasn't a one born in this world that would satisfy everybody. Good that your best friend re-appeared in your life. Hopefully, you guys will explain things to each other.