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Do I deserve to be with someone?

Postby speedygonzalez93 » Mon Dec 21, 2015 1:53 pm

Hello guys,

It isn't easy for me to post here but I think I really need help.
I'm a guy in his early 20's and I never had a girlfriend.
Why? I don't look particularly bad or cannot talk to girls.
The biggest problem is my let's call it inferiority complex.
Every time a girl is interested in me or even goes on a date with me, I feel so lost and out of place like I shouldn't be in that position. EVERY SINGLE TIME. I always look around and think that there are so many guys who would fit better with her and even if we would get together she will break up with me pretty quickly since I'm inexperienced so why bother?
I start panicking when I imagine how I would go to a social event with my gf and have to introduce her to other people AS MY GIRLFRIEND and how they would stare me down thinking "how is she together with that guy?"
When I stand in front of a mirror and repeat the line "My girlfriend and I" or any phrase involving a girlfriend, it just feels so odd that I cant even say it.
I had so many chances and opportunities but I am always more in my head than on the actual date with the girl.

I watched endless videos and read so many articles about self-confidence or the "right mindset" and know the theory but I doesn't help in the real world.
Meanwhile I am depressed and frustrated to the point that I don't even bother trying to meet girls because I know how it's gonna end.
I really don't wanna end up being alone forever and I appreciate any feedback.
Thank you.

Cheers
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Re: Do I deserve to be with someone?

Postby atina » Tue Dec 22, 2015 6:23 pm

Dear speedygonzalez1993:

When I went on my first (and last date with that guy) out of high school, I was afraid every time I exhaled that he will hear the air coming out of my nostrils and that it will turn him off. I can't imagine anyone having a lower self esteem and a worse inferiority complex than I have had. I hope it will be a faster journey for you, if you take it, to heal your injured self esteem, injured sense of self worth, than it has been for me.

You were born with the natural KNOWING that you were and are worthy. You knew it then, had no doubt. You knew you were worthy without knowing the terms Self Esteem or Inferiority Complex. Then your worth was injured. Someone did it, at the beginning, and repeatedly. It is about going back and seeing (insight) how did it happen? Who? How?

When your arm gets injured it HURTS, It hurts because you have an arm. When your WORTH was injured it hurt then and it still hurt because you have worth.

Insight into injury ...?

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