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Celebrity Worship Syndrome - Can it be cured?

Postby BlondieND » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:00 am

I have severe celebrity worship syndrome to the point where it has taken over my whole life, I am constantly depressed and anxious and cant face doing anything with my own life, I dont see the point. I have no one to talk to or to help me get over this. I have even changed my identity to look like this person (Bleached my hair and cut my hair shoulder length when it was down to my knees) - I dont know what to do anymore, it has completely taken over my life and I dont know how to stop it, Pleas someone help me and give me some support and advice.
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Postby Apache » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:08 am

What exactly is it that is taking over your life?.
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Postby BlondieND » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:15 am

I am constantly on the internet searching this person, there isnt a minute where I dont think about this person, I cant face getting a job because compared to this celebs life, it will be crap and so i stay home all day just obsessing over this person and even when I did manage to get a job (lasted about 2 days) all i could think of was this celeb, and its not something like a teenage crush that has been going on for 2 weeks, its been nine years but now it just feels like Im being tortured. I cant explain it, maybe its hard for someone to understand who isnt going thro it but I dont know what to do.
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Postby Apache » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:25 am

You are not this person though, there life be it in luxery is from what they have accomplished. You being a seperate individual have your own past, life, thoughts, feelings ect.

Being here and posting you must know that your infatuation is a bit irrational. Why be someone else when you could be you. And whatever you are could inspire or touch someone else just like this celeb has to you.

This is a 9 year infatuation, why now is it becoming so hard?.

Is this celeb infact blondie?
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Postby BlondieND » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:34 am

No, Its Gwen from No Doubt - Shes been my friend for all these years but now it feel slike shes in my life for all the wrong reasons, I have tried really hard to not check out what shes up to today on the net or download any new pics but its been hard, I have even tried to clear out all the pics, cd's etc.. of her from my room - just to try and help myself get over her but i dont think I can. Its got really bad lately tho, I cant think about anything else but her, my hair is fried from all the bleaching and I also self abuse myself because I am not her, I am ugly and untalented compared to her, and lately its got worse because I have tried so hard to get a job and forget about what she has but I cant. I will never have what she has and I will never be her and I cant live with that. I tried to commit suicide in 2004 but taking an overdose of sleeping tablets followed by a bottle of wine but im still here unfortunately. I also desperatly want to sing in a band (like she does) but know that will never be possible for me cause I am crap at singing and thats another thing that tortures me. I dont know where to turn anymore.
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Postby Apache » Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:02 am

The truth is gwen is just like you or i, or anyone else. She's nothing exceptional....she just happens to have a good voice and a good talent in the music making industry. Outside of that she eat's her bigmacs and brushes her teeth like the rest of us.

Why would you hurt yourself for not being her?. You are you, that is better then being her, you are your own individual with your own talents. You have just asmuch worth, talent and beauty as she dose, if you were just like her you wouldnt be an original and thats nothing to strive for.

What dose your family and or partner think about all this?.

For somewhere to turn look to friends, family, therapist, even here is a good place.
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Postby BlondieND » Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:16 am

Thanks for talking to me jamie, you dont know how much it means to me. My mum knows I have a problem but she dosent do anything about it to help me get through it cause she so busy running me down to my elder sis who is really nasty, I am not even talking to them because so much has happend, its so bad here. I feel trapped and I am scared. I dont have a partner, i dont have any friends, I dont have anyhting in my life apart from this obsession. Maybe thats why I have clung onto her cause I have no one else but even when i try to break free I cant. I somehow got lost along the way and am desperatley looking for some help and love. I feel so relieved that I found this forum, just being able to talk to you about it helps so much, I have had it trapped within me for so long now and I am ashamed of it. I dont think I am ever going to shake it off - she has everything and I have nothing.
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Postby Apache » Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:47 am

Theres much more in life then material things. If you strip away all her money and fame she is just another joe blow.

If your mom's not tuning in then perhaps you should see about talking to a therapist. In the mean time stick around. Theres many people here happy to lend some support or advice. Everyone needs to vent sometimes....keeping $#%^ all bottled up only wears on a person. Its not healthy and i agree with you. The fact you've been keeping it bottled up has probably made it worse.
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Postby jonathan33 » Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:55 am

hey , hang in there, you are not alone in feeling the way you do. there are many many people out there who use something to distract themselves from the perceived pain of their own lives. whether it be drugs, alcohol, sex, ocd rituals, cutting or as in your case a celeb obsession they are all similar in there attempts to relieve pain and distract one from overwhelming internal anxieties. so basically, gwen stefani has nothing to do with this...its the emotions and thought processes and faulty images u may have of yourself that are driving you outward to find value, worth and meaning in your life. i have been and currently am in an isolated situation where i know few people if any really in my area, am not working, battle depression and could easily throw in the towel. in the past, even the recent past i would drink heavily, waste away in strip joints, try to impress people by being someone else and do many other things to try and feel important or gain a place in the world....through years and years of excruciating pain i learned that these things dont work. we cant be somebody else, we cant be happy based on externals or find value and worth outside ourselves. true peace and joy and a baseline of mental health can only come from within. the intense pain and out of control feeling you have right now is in a sense beautfiul because it is causing you to begin to look for real answers and you will hopefully realize that the answers come from within yourself, no one else. when u choose to love yourself for who you are regardless of any other nonsense or society imposed shenanigans then you will begin to find peace. you dont have to live up to any standard, or be special or whatever it is you are telling yourself u need to be in order to be "good enough". u were born so are you good enough, period. try to observe yourself in thought and begin to peel back the irrational layers until you are stripped down to your core authentic self and then embrace it fully and unconditioanlly. it will take incredible discipline and at times feel very uncomfortable but in the end you will be an incredibly deep, healthy, aware person with a true "knowing" of life and human existance. i am walking this path now, and although tough i know it is the only path i can take, the pain will show u the way to the light....u r important and special as you are. hang in there, you are not alone.
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Postby BlondieND » Mon Sep 11, 2006 4:06 am

Hey joanthan, that was really moving, you have a way with words :D I am facing up to the situation now which is something that I tried to run away from for ao many years now, I could never imagin living life without her in my life but now I am trying to get rid of anyhting to do with her and avoid even logging on to an fansites which is so hard to do, almost impossible but I will somehow find a way. As for me, I have yet to find out who i really am, I have been brainwashed for far so many years and she has made me feel great at times and other times, sad, lonely, worthless and a complete failure. When I look in the mirror, I see a bad rip off version that is less of everything that she is/has. I need to find my own identity but even that thought alone is scary.
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