My big envy problem

For much of my life, I have been envying people for many reasons; it's starting to become a burden on my family, because I won't improve, and I'm just stuck in this cycle. Here are the things that I envy:

Material items:
Those who have a copy of Saints Row 2 or the Sims video games - I'm disappointed by the fact that other games don't offer as much unique features, mechanics and customisability. I could get these games myself, but I still am financially dependent and I simply can't get PC games because they don't want me playing on the computer (for some reason, they want to reserve computer only for homework; I'm incredibly angry about this, because I don't like my life to be about work). The only thing that will help me curb this urge is that the Sims 4 is coming out, and I can wait to get myself another laptop in a couple of years without feeling like I'm playing something obsolete. As of right now, I'm thinking of creating games that will combine these features, but I'm terrible at programming; the fact I've discovered the conlangs Lojban and Ithkuil have kind of put me off of programming, because of how their artificial nature means they're more logical than English, the language used for programming languages.
Those who own the Samsung Galaxy S4 - I should be happy for the fact I own an iPhone 4S (also high-end; my first smartphone was a mid-range Samsung Galaxy Ace), but its closed-source nature, the fact it doesn't work like a flash drive, digital camera or an MP3 player and the fact that you have to pay for nearly everything, puts me off incredibly. Fortunately, I only have this phone for two years, because I'm on a contract.

Qualities other people have:
People who are attractive, kind and adept at the arts (inc. martial arts) - I envy the main character in the video game Mirror's Edge and the book The Hunger Games, because they can fight with martial arts (I haven't heard so much about Katniss doing that yet). I also envy those both online and offline when it comes to art and music, especially ordinary people who draw stuff such as fanart or play covers of hard to play rock songs. I also envy those who are good at martial arts and are around my age. I'd also like to be as adept at parkour as the main character of Mirror's Edge is, but I have to force myself to be enthusiastic about anything other than the internet and video games.
Lesbians - If you're LGBT and reading this, I'm sorry; it's because I feel like that being a guy is just irrelevant, if not, harmful for modern society. As a result, I also envy guys who look or seem like girls, especially if they have medium to long hair, adopt alternative styles (particularly the "emo" style), are skinny and carry themselves in a more feminine manner.
Those who are better at video games than I am
Those who like punk music or something - I feel like I'm part of a "defective system" for not appreciating it and their ideology.
Those who aren't socially awkward - I don't want to be known for this, and I'd rather be known for being talented and kind to others, as in not letting my impulses get in the way of how I treat other people.
Anyone who doesn't have belly fat - For the typical reasons, I guess.

I think there might be more to come in this post; I just want to know what you think.

Hello..A little envy can be a good thing,as it keeps us motivated and striving for more,or to better ourselves.Its a natural part of human nature to be alittle envious at times or jealous on occasion.Heck,even my dog gets jealous when I hu and kiss the cat too much..and vice versa.BUT when something starts overtaking your thoughts,consuming you,or interferes with how you are thinking of others or reacting,then it can be problematic.Why do you feel this way?Does not having these things,which by the way are just materialistic or cosmetic,make you feel like you didnt accomplish enough in life?Do these things mean something to you..more then what they really are?Do you think by owning such things,or even having a flatter stomache will make you the envy of someone else?You have to find a balance within your inner self.Nothing on the outside of life will ever fill any of our voids..for we will always be striving for more and perfection that we will never be able to fill or accomplish. Try alittle test with yourself.Try focusing on the beauty of who you truly are.Try focusing on the positivity of yourself.Try focusing on nature..go for some wwalks..look at stones..clouds and the simple beauty that surrounds you....you will be suprised..xx..sorry for my typos with this cheapy phone )

starbright333 wrote:Hello..A little envy can be a good thing,as it keeps us motivated and striving for more,or to better ourselves.Its a natural part of human nature to be alittle envious at times or jealous on occasion.Heck,even my dog gets jealous when I hu and kiss the cat too much..and vice versa.BUT when something starts overtaking your thoughts,consuming you,or interferes with how you are thinking of others or reacting,then it can be problematic.Why do you feel this way?Does not having these things,which by the way are just materialistic or cosmetic,make you feel like you didnt accomplish enough in life?Do these things mean something to you..more then what they really are?Do you think by owning such things,or even having a flatter stomache will make you the envy of someone else?You have to find a balance within your inner self.Nothing on the outside of life will ever fill any of our voids..for we will always be striving for more and perfection that we will never be able to fill or accomplish. Try alittle test with yourself.Try focusing on the beauty of who you truly are.Try focusing on the positivity of yourself.Try focusing on nature..go for some wwalks..look at stones..clouds and the simple beauty that surrounds you....you will be suprised..xx..sorry for my typos with this cheapy phone )

The video game means something to me; it means original ideas that have been overlooked by many games. I might not be able to do what you suggest, because I've got an internet and gaming addiction, meaning I can't do anything productive if left to my own devices...

Jealousy is the experience when something one possess and is fearful of losing. So, make sure that you label it correctly.