Having trouble dealing with being fired.

4 weeks ago I was fired from a Job that I had for 1 year. I have been working for 32 years and up to now never been fired.

I am trying to start my own business but I still feel lost. I am having trouble dealing with the issue.

I was told that I was undependable. I have always giving 100% to my job. This job was different. I am a designer and the software that I was using my boss could not get a handle of it.

I was hired as sales/designer then changed to draftman/designer.

All I was doing you design from my Bosses Idea's. Do not get me wrong I enjoyed what I was doing.
But he found fault in everything I was doing.
He did not know use to the software. When I asked him If I should quit he said no you are doing good. Mixed signals.

As the months ticked by I started getting sick once part in the hospital for possible heart attack but turned out to be a ulcer.

I guess deep down the job was starting to get to me.

There was other issues going on at the job that were out of my control. Looking back I should have seen this coming because when I was hired another person was hired right me. That person was being groomed by him. That was the reason my job was changed.

I am just have trouble dealing with being FIRED.

Sorry for the rant. I still need to look into myself to understand what happened and how can I change.

thanks

as

Almost everyone I know has been fired at some point in their lives, myself included. Judging from what you said about the job, be glad that you are out of there. They clearly didn't appreciate you and with your long track record of employment I'm sure you can find something else. Also getting an ulcer, if the job is what caused it, definitely is not worth it.

I think you're being too hard on yourself. I know it's a blow to be fired after putting so much of yourself into the job, but hey, $#%^ happens. Don't let the job have any more power over you by continuing to feel miserable. Forge ahead and find a better job where you're appreciated.

did they do it properly? ie Go thru the right channels of issuing verbal and written warnings etc etc? cos hun you do have rights and you can take them to court. or contact the government department that handles this stuff. you will be surprised at how they favour you more than the company.

http://www.bbbonline.org/

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=be ... ess+bureau

They are replacing you because they can, its easy for a big company. That doesnt mean you havent burnt a mental image in their minds though. Things always have a way to bite them in the ass because they dont have full control.

If I was in that situation I would look into getting employed by one of the competitors. Put 100% into that.

In life youre usually taught to excel at everything but it comes to a point that you overdue it and no one will notice that you are good at what you do.

Sorry to "hear" that you lost your job. Sounds like you are grieving your loss. I know that it sounds cliche, but things will get better for you. The main thing is that you take care of yourself, eat well, exercise, rest and try to remain positive. Look at this situation as an opportunity for growth. It's okay to cry and be angry, give yourself permission for those feelings, but at the same time, plan for your future and look for things you can do with your talents. That's what I do when I face tough situations like you. I know it's not easy. God is always there for you. Do not forget that.
Zeenia