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Postby am i? » Mon May 08, 2006 7:15 pm

hi im a 15 yr old girl and im so shy, ive never had a boyfriend when all my friends have, i like boys but i odnt want to kiss them incase im bad at it and will get slagged, i dont want to do all the sexual activities to incase i do it wrong.
i never really want to go to discos or parties as well.
whats wrong with me how can i get over this??????
i fell like im behind, and im going to this 3 week course yoke where boys go aswell and there will be alot of kissing envolved, what should i do to overcome this before that. please help im desprete, i find myself hiding away just not to kiss a boy, is this bad. i have kissed but only in a disco and still it takes alot for me to do it.
this may be in the wrong place but please, help!!!!!!!!
my friends are noticing and i dont want to be wierd even my 13 year old sister has had a boyfriend and goes out with fellas. am i wierd?????????????????????????????
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Postby Antoninus » Tue May 09, 2006 7:16 pm

Dont sweat, your not wierd.

Anxiety concerning physical contact and sex is totally normal. We ALL had those moments when were younger.

Im guessing your from the UK (The term slagged is British slang)

All I can really say is that when you do start being physically intimate, it will be a little awkward because you dont really know what to do but after a little bit, instinct takes over and it works out. Kissing also becomes second nature after a little bit.

You do sound a bit shy, best I could reccomend is getting to know a guy before going to a point where you want to kiss him, you dont have to kiss every guy you meet or talk to.

I would also seriously discourage you picking up a "practice" guy, or a guy to practice kissing, sex etc etc on. That sucks beyond belief when a woman does that.

Youll learn as you do, trust me. You need two things to have sex. Birth control and a sense of humor, because things are gonna happen that are just going to make the both of you crack up laughing. If you dont, its going to feel VERY awkward.

Also, dont look to porn for sex tips. Just...dont, sex is NOT like it is in movies or porn. That is an idealized immage of sex that you may have maybe 5 or 10 times in your whole life. Just go with the flow, and if you got a good guy, he'll understand.
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