by Alucard » Wed Apr 26, 2017 2:29 am
Hi fragments,
I've heard of inappropriate affect before. I've also heard it be called "incongruent affect" in response to my own behavior before, by a psychologist I had, and they're basically the same thing, it's just inappropriate affect is used more commonly as a term. I laugh at things I shouldn't, and not because I think they're funny; or I smile and giggle and not because I think those things are titillating. I also won't have a very emotional response to something "happy" or whatever, exciting, whatever, sad, whatever, to things that are going on or things that people are saying. It really depends on my mental state though. It happens more often if I'm stressed and distracted by my own world, and less often when I'm not as stress/distracted. I also noticed I had a lot of issues with flattened affect and "smug" looks when I was on medication.
I kind of just roll with the punches. Sometimes I apologize, sometimes I don't because I really don't have to, it all depends on the other person's reaction. I think it's also important for the other person, especially a significant other, since this is a constant struggle for you, to be very aware of how separate your reactions are from your actual feelings. They have to be on the same level as you, and just as aware of it as you are, or else things won't work out. It's a hard conversation, but one worthwhile. If they can't comprehend that, or aren't willing to work on an understanding . . . well, you can only do so much.
Anyway, just my thoughts.
I like living in the world in my head because I'm in charge half the time.