Group Meeting

I went to a schizophrenia/schizoaffective/depression/bipolar group on friday and it turned out really well. We talked about cognitive behavioral therapy. Specifically, If something happens you have a reaction to that thing and come to a conclusion and ultimately the hard thought. For instance I hear a voice that tells me to kill myself, my conclusion could be that I should kill myself and then my hard thought is that no one loves me and that's why I have to kill myself. The group leader suggested you stop at your conclusion and evaluate several other possibilities and compare them to figure out which one seems the most realistic. That way your hard thought might be I'm not going to kill myself, there are many people counting on me to be alive. We also talked about coping mechanisms. I happened to mention that I have cut in the past as a coping mechanism. Others admitted to smoking pot, drinking, overeating, isolating yourself, playing too much online gaming. He suggested listening to music, go for a walk, get away from the situation, some eating is ok, writing, drawing or playing sports with friends. Unfortunately, I don't have any friends really. No one I confide in truly. It would be nice to have that. I'm married but I met this really nice girl at group and she's really pretty and was being super nice to me. My wife told me last week she's going to divorce me so I slipped my ring off my finger unsuspiciously so this girl wouldn't know I'm married. She really is looking forward to seeing me at this next group this friday. I really love my wife but sometimes things aren't meant to be. I think this girl may be the next step in my life. I know it's soon to say so but I really felt a connection. I don't want to get ahead of the horse either though and assume that she does like me and wasn't just being super friendly. It's just the way she looked at me. I could tell there was an attraction. anyway... i'll stop rambling.

I'm a woman and I have been hit on in these groups and honestly it just makes me mad. I am there for support for my illness not to date. Most women I know that go to support groups feel the same way. I'm just trying to tell you this so you don't make a fool of yourself. She is probably just being nice but the group is probably more important to her than trying to date you.

I hear ya. I won't make any hasty decisions. She very well may be just being nice. I'm not gonna be wrecked if she isn't interested. The group is really helpful and I wouldn't want to make that uncomfortable either. Maybe I'll just let fate determine the outcome.