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Wife may be a paranoid schizo but she doesn't want therapy!

Postby the_architect » Sat Jan 12, 2013 5:33 am

So, I've been posting on this site for some time now about the innability to consumate our marriage, trust issues. A somewhat new revelation that my wife may be in the early-mid stages of paranoid schizophrenia has managed to both simplify and complicate our relationship simultaneously. On one hand, if this has been something that has been slowly developing over several years, than her inability to trust me that has prevented us from making love throughout out relationship may be a result of this condition. On the other hand, this awful diagnosis needs immediate attention: finding the right treatment and getting her to willing accept whatever therapy and medications are prescribed (she has completely accepter her delusions of being the target of a conspiracy as a reality); and this has effectively pushed our intimacy issues to the back burner...
I have been battling with the idea of seeking an annulment off and on for a few years now, and we even seperated for about 11 months last year as she went to live with her family in India while I looked for work in LA. I am however still in love with her. I flew out to India after noticing her paranoid postings on FB, and after she lost her job after telling her boss's son about her paranoid theories she lost her job. Her family was apperantly oblivious to her condition, and so I took her back in, and we have been trying to work on things since August.
Now I just feel completely sapped of energy and I just don't know what I should do now...
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Re: Wife may be a paranoid schizo but she doesn't want thera

Postby byondrepairable36 » Mon Jan 21, 2013 6:10 am

I wish I knew what advice to give you, but I don't as I am experiencing the same thing as your wife. The only difference is I want therapy, however, I fear there are no therapists who will want to help me.

I thinks it's great that you are concerned for your wife, and still willing to stick by her throughout everything. I can imagine it's not always easy, but you're doing it. For me, I worry no one will ever love me due to what I believe are my schizophrenic episodes. It's sometimes when someone realizes and accepts that they are ill with this disease, that they begin to question whether or not anyone will ever love them. But to know for certain that someone is in your corner makes a huge difference, and I think this also helps a person work harder to try and recover. So, your wife, I think that once she gains that trust back, and realizes you are there for her, love her, and actually do want the best for her, then she'll come around and maybe even pursue therapy.

Good luck to you. I hope everything works out well for you.
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Re: Wife may be a paranoid schizo but she doesn't want thera

Postby the_architect » Fri Jan 25, 2013 6:31 am

Thank you for your reply! It's good to get hear an opinion from someone in her position. You seem quite aware of your episodes, has that always been the case? My wife doesn't even seem to think that something is a bit off, which makes things even more difficult to deal with. Was there a point where you discovered that something might be going awry mentally?
Now that I am over the initial shock of finding out she may be experiencing a chronic case of schizophrenia (as opposed to a short-term disorder) I feel the hardest thing to deal with is not being able to relate to her anymore. Even day to day tasks somehow revolve around her conspiracy theories, and I really feel like I am losing the woman I love.
Any help would be appreciated!
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