is he schizoid?

i'm wondering if anyone can help me out. my boyfriend seems to have very schizoid tendencies.
he says that he sees our relationship as being seperated into two categories - good friends, and sex, those two things being completely different. when i tell him he's using me, he gets annoyed because "we were good friends long before we started being sexual". while i understand that he doesn't like to get emotionally involved, what confuses me is that he seems care for me as a friend. i'm just wondering where you draw the line between what's emotional involvement and what isn't. i don't expect him to ever be romantic but would like to know what i actually mean to him, even as a friend. i guess my question is, what IS close friendship to a schizoid? just passing company, and you wouldn't be affected if they died or moved away? something more...?
he also prides himself on EVERYTHING that he is, has no desire to better himself in any way, has an enormous ego... he'll do things for the purpose of annoying other people, like throwing himself on the ground and spazzing out and making dumb faces, just to "get a reaction", just to be different to everyone else. he goes out of his way to be the polar opposite of what people want or expect. the fact that it irritates the hell out of everyone else is of no importance to him. he thinks it's actually "cool" to be completely weird. can't he understand that he's not admired and people just laugh at him instead?
i can connect to him and have good conversations, but is it a total waste of time? unless i'm physically crying he's never sympathetic, he never thinks about how his behaviour affects other people. if i'm yelling at him he never realises that it's out of hurt rather than hatred. i should just walk around with flash cards with emoticon faces on them... he just has no idea how people function.

Who knows? Does it really matter anyway? You are annoyed by him and feel used so maybe you should just leave. This is more of a relationship issue than anything else.

it's not that actually, i may have been venting but i like him enough to hang around. i was just interested to see what people might think. i guess no one would really know but a professional, and he's happy so he has no reason to see one. i'd just be interested to be able to understand him better.

Look at the diagnostic criteria, and even have him take a look. It's cut and dry; a professional is not necessary.

Isnt a huge ego and ultimate self image some of the criteria of a narcisist.

Hey its not all bad.

You get conversations and sex out of him.

I dont think he means any harm to anyone inside. Some people express themselves in different ways. Maybe thats how he expresses himself.

He may have preffered to think that everyone admires him than having the feeling of everyone laughing at him. You wouldnt like it if everyone laughed at you. Eventually i think i would delude myself too.

I say this to all the people who say others are wierd "define normal"


I wouldnt worry too much. If he is a schizoid and you have a close relationship that is pretty special in itself.

Maybe he cant stand the idiocy of society or the world in general so goes against all the norms to make an attempt at breaking out.

I am very emotionally stunted and will talk to people in a logical manner even when it is an intimate\emotional moment. I do not see sex as anything more than a function to reproduce. It seems i cannot recognise the difference between a normal conversation and an intimate one. Maybe he cant too.

The only time ive had any intimate moments is when a girl is extremly forward.

Why dont you talk to him about your feelings?
Tell him how you feel within the conversation.

Thats certainly the only way a girl can get me to realise because i do not look at the person i am talking to all i get is her voice.

Do you make eye contact etc?

Hey it could be worse! you could be going out with ME!!! AAAAGH lol

Well give it a try. I dont know if it will work but its worth a shot.