Sense of Identity

erikvliet wrote:This identity thing I find annoying. One of the things I sometimes feel I miss is the ability to feel comfortable around other people, I think people by nature want to feel 'belonging' so to feel a bit more safe. Due to my schizoidiness I became an observer of people with identities, and then you start to see the downsides of having an identity, they tend to gather based on their identity and naturally you are not a part of that, because you don't have much of an identity. But you also see that they limit themselves by taking on this identity, they need to conform to their group a lot of the time, that is something I dont want, I must confess I do feel a bit stressed sometimes by being alone all the time, that is the other side of the coin. Sometimes people want to give me an identity, so I make a lot of music on the piano and they say: 'he is classically trained', then I get really pissed, first of all I am not trained, I gathered a lot of information over the years because I am enthousiastic about music. It is not that I want to feel special, there are probaby many more people like me, but I just dont want to play the game of being a predictable character, also because it is intensly boring.