aks1 wrote:How would you define "emotionally detached"?
Someone that does not want things you want or most people want.
So if you are part of a crowd that cheers for a team during a sporting event, the emotionally detached is the one that won't stand up and cheer if there is a goal, or it won't be as heartfelt.
It's Winston in the 2 minutes of hate
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XvGmOZ5T6_YHe does no bellyfeel the party.
It ties into concepts like avolition and anhedonia.
Like in that clip, people willfully enjoy the hate, it gives them catharsis and bound them together as a group. They get a drama, and then a grooming, which creates a dopamine hit which creates pleasure. So they want the pleasure which justifies the conflict, and the totalitarian state of Ingsoc.
So in the end, emotional detachment is not wanting conflict or the pleasure of reconciliation. Both are rejected to avoid the conflict itself. Not exactly a new idea, Buddhists and mystics pretty much always sought this. If you have nothing and want nothing, people won't be able to steal from you, and what you do have, is not something they can take away from you.
It also avoids emotional manipulation which consists in pretending to have a feeling, and then take it away, which then forces the other to act in order to get back to the previous situation. But for that to work, the original emotion has to be valued and some habit of it has to be created, an attachment. It's common in romance. "Love" is easy to give, it costs nothing, just a few words, and it's possible to create a feeling with it, which, if accepted and valued, will attach another person to the one giving. They it's easy to make threats or take out such emotion in order to force compliance. It's the typical normal relationship model, which ties into not responding to praise and criticism, because it's the same thing. Praise attach, criticism detach. If you accept one, you have to accept the other and it becomes a game of who gives more than the other, which creates drama and reconciliation in an abusive circle. So emotional detachment avoids that, but also avoids most relationships since they are almost all based on that concept, that moral dance.