May be this girl I loved a schizoid?

Italianguy wrote:And i said her my feelings for the opposite reason, to feel her more comfortable, cause it was obvious i liked her very much, but the onl thing i wanted was to know her by helping her, for just her gratitude.

Biiiig mistake. You put her in a very awkward position. Which only made it even more unlikely for her to have or show any gratitude. It's never a good idea to do anything exclusively for gratitude anyway. Do things for money or because you want to. Sometimes people will be grateful, sometimes they won't.

And, come on... If you had a crush on her, then inevitably it wasn't just for gratitude. You wanted to go see her and feel those warm lovey feelings, even though you knew you didn't have a chance with her. Everybody makes mistakes, and "love is blind", but you really shouldn't be surprised by the outcome. There's no need to look for elaborate psychiatric explanations (much less any need to try to fix anyone). You had it coming. Just... accept it. It's not easy, but that's all that there is to it.

I know. My parents also are different behind closed doors.
But something is always visible. Anyway, why she was impolite with me, also considering the hypothesis she has got bad parents?

You're going down a spiral with your theories. Go watch TV, or maybe go to the beach and watch the waves crash. It's summer.

emillionth wrote: Unless you're doing it as a friend, which is simply not the case.

And that’s what I meant. As a friend.
Anyway, I explained before she never asked me or searched for it, so it is not the case.

The explanation seems very obvious to me. She was uncomfortable because she sensed that you "liked her in that kind of way", and she just wanted your help with school. You told her not to worry about it, even though you really did have a crush on her. You also told me you're not fixating on her, even though you still write bible-long essays about her, so.... What conclusion am I to take from this other than that you are in denial about your feelings and about how "under control" your feelings are? Clearly she saw it too. And she didn't want to deal with that kind of trouble.

1) I’m not fixated on her. Not since that day I talked to her parents. I’d sure be if I didn’t do it, cause the knowledge she adoptes that behavior with everyone makes me understood it’s not my fault. I tried to feel her comfortable in all the ways I could despite my feelings.
2) I write these bible-long essays cause I want to understand if her character could be compatible with SPD. No more. If your answer is yes, I don’t think she is schizoid. I think it is obvious.
3) The conclusion I was disappointed about her behavior with me. Cause I didn’t deserve a similar treatment (none was so weird with me), cause she had to pay me (and she neither noticed her parents about it in two months since the last lessons) and cause she knew I loved her, and she had to be more sensitive.

Alright I give up. Good luck.

emillionth wrote:Biiiig mistake. You put her in a very awkward position. Which only made it even more unlikely for her to have or show any gratitude. It's never a good idea to do anything exclusively for gratitude anyway. Do things for money or because you want to. Sometimes people will be grateful, sometimes they won't.

She wouldn’t have paid me if I didn’t go to her home.
After nine months, after having spent for you different hours of my life to help you, after 2000 km made for her, after we met for seven times in which I never did anything of inopportune, after being close to you when you were concerned for your tests or exams...you still don’t trust me? Don’t develop any form of gratitude??
Its absolutely strange. It’s a lack of empathy.
She was impolite. And for that, I’m justified to receive some explanations.

There's no need to look for elaborate psychiatric explanations (much less any need to try to fix anyone). You had it coming. Just... accept it. It's not easy, but that's all that there is to it.

Oh, there is. Cause I recognize those traits of SPD since the first time, but I thought it was me. Instead I found out she was that kind of girl with everybody.

You're going down a spiral with your theories. Go watch TV, or maybe go to the beach and watch the waves crash. It's summer.

Just a question: are my hypothesis possible to be true? I just want to know this.
The rest never minds.

EDIT: bye

Italianguy wrote:EDIT: bye

That saved me some time.

Good luck op. I have OCD and know how it is to not be able to let thoughts go. If you do want me to explain my post feel free to pm me.

Locking thread since op seems to have abandoned the post. It was going in circles anyway.