Communication Skills

Ashlar wrote:Are you poor or good at communication? What about different mediums like face to face vs written vs anonymous online? How do you feel about others and most people in general regarding such things?

I'm mostly curious if there's any similarity for people here with my own experiences. My written communication gets praised or admired pretty often all over the place, but I'm generally very quiet verbally. I also find that the most common "problem" I run into is the short-cutting people do with conversations, whether written or spoken.

I tend to deliver spoken conversation relatively slowly and methodically. People sometimes say I sound arrogant. The most common problems I have is that other people tend to want to talk very fast and assume what you're going to say, but often times I'm saying something that's not what they predicted.

Similarly in written communication I tend to find that if I'm talking about something that is "common conversation", like say politics, people take whatever I said and then fill in the unsaid things with what they think the conversation is going to be about... but usually I only mean what I said explicitly. For example, I made a comment elsewhere that I was indifferent to something, and then someone else went on to just assume I was saying "all parties are the same". Stuff like that irks me.

I think a sizeable number of these people that are... typical communicators... are actually just verbalizing what they themselves want to hear. Whereas for me, I have all that monologue internally, and I'm very discerning about it. I don't broadcast that stuff, and I don't need to have it bounced off someone else to feel validated.