Boundary Buster

Boundary Buster are people who have no boundaries towards others, usually people at cluster B spectrum.

So how do you react to them?

Are you quick to spot them?

Is intrusiviness the major and deadliest sin on schizoid perspective?

For me it seens almost like an allergy.

Between murderers, pedophilies, war criminals, fanboys and boudary busters, I guess the last are the only I have zero tolerance.

Unless they have a gun or some other real threat. In that case they do get my respect.

Sometimes I question myself if I am also one? But I guess this may be just my lack of emotional assertiviness talking. I guess schizoid are really the opposite of that.

I also guess, my mon is a major Boundary Buster. I guess that it was from my early childhood that I've got this 'allergy'.

Any thoughts Few free to post any comment?

creative_nothing wrote:
So how do you react to them?

Usually, I when in Rome it. I'm not afraid of cooties, but I hate hugs thanks to my mom who hugged me so often you'd think she used an egg timer to judge when she needed to again. I became better with hugs due to my current boyfriend. Only him though. Everyone else is in a "Oh ok yes this is awkward, but I guess we can. If possible can it only be once though?" type of way.

creative_nothing wrote:Are you quick to spot them?

Usually, they are wide-eyed and smiling a lot.

creative_nothing wrote:Is intrusiveness the major and deadliest sin on schizoid perspective?

More like an extreme faux pas for me. I'd say deadliest for me would be if they were trying to get me to admit I somehow liked it. *Ultra-cringes*

creative_nothing wrote:Between murderers, pedophiles, war criminals, fanboys and boundary busters, I guess the last are the only I have zero tolerance.

Pretty certain the bolded tend to cross boundaries. Fanboys though...ugh. To me, that can easily be worse than boundary busters. I'll take hugs over someone begging me to read their supernatural/brony fanfic any day.

creative_nothing wrote:Sometimes I question myself if I am also one? But I guess this may be just my lack of emotional assertiveness talking. I guess schizoids are really the opposite of that.

I asked about this in another thread. Others and I claimed we were assertive. At the same time, I've read many times over that SPD's aren't. I think it's a some are some aren't type of thing. I can turn boundary busters down, however, I know certain situations are probably good exposure therapy for me so go with it.

creative_nothing wrote:I also guess, my mom is a major Boundary Buster. I guess that it was from my early childhood that I've got this 'allergy'.

Same. As mentioned before. Mine would tell me on a daily basis that giving kids a certain amount of hugs a day takes away depression. Now I'm on meds that increase my low dopamine levels.

What meds if you dont mind telling us ?

No problem. Rexulti 1mg (the one that regulates my dopamine levels), and 200mg Lamictal. I might have to go on a higher dosage of Rexulti, but I started it 2 weeks ago, and it seems to be helping my situation. I need it to calm down my mania and raise my dopamine during low episodes for my BP1.

Holodeck wrote:No problem. Rexulti 1mg (the one that regulates my dopamine levels), and 200mg Lamictal. I might have to go on a higher dosage of Rexulti, but I started it 2 weeks ago, and it seems to be helping my situation. I need it to calm down my mania and raise my dopamine during low episodes for my BP1.

Good to know. A new med, sounds promising. I guess dopamine sensitivity is main difference between spd and aspd. Because even though I am quick to spot those assrows I am slow on taking action and turning them away. Remorse is another thing I should not have for them, but I do. it always come into long rumminations if I ever act out.

By the way, I wouldnt call murderes boundary busters, but rather boundary sneakers, if that word exists .

Well mind you, though I was dx'd these weren't for SPD, these meds were for rapid cycling bipolar I.

However, I think the majority of my SPD issues are sorta like how the Vulcans in Star Trek. They repress their emotions because their emotions are in fact too strong to deal with. I repress my mania and depression as much as possible by repressing my other emotions. People don't typically see me at my worst, but rather I fly off the handle when along, and go into denial about it later.

I was on a great med called triptical, but I broke out in a rash and had to stop. Damn thing fixed my mood swings, ADHD, and I immediately didn't have issues with starting to allow myself more emotion. I've slowly regained that on the new stuff, but it's not that level yet.

I sometimes secretly wish someone could bust my boundaries... I'm so entrenched no one can pass through my no man's land, and it takes me ages to lower my guard, most people just don't have the endurance.

I would not appreciate it done publicly though.

creative_nothing wrote:Boundary Buster are people who have no boundaries towards others, usually people at cluster B spectrum.

So how do you react to them?

For some reason I gravitate toward them. Or vice versa. I have no idea why. They interest me. Maybe a way to make up for my social/emotional deficits? I kind of like to experience social fluidity vicariously through my extroverted friends.

It's like a joke: What did the one schizoid say to the other schizoid? Nothing.

Are you quick to spot them?

Aren't they the ones with the stupid smile on their face, craning their necks around looking for somebody to bother?

Is intrusiviness the major and deadliest sin on schizoid perspective?

I would guess it varies. Just being in my line of sight is enough to give me chills sometimes.

N1ghty wrote:I sometimes secretly wish someone could bust my boundaries... I'm so entrenched no one can pass through my no man's land, and it takes me ages to lower my guard, most people just don't have the endurance.

I would not appreciate it done publicly though.

i know what you mean.not boundaries. but i am jealous of having someone who never gives up on you even with all your defenses.and pass through.

It's like a joke: What did the one schizoid say to the other schizoid? Nothing.

this is how i end up with more social people than me. lately i have one friend who is introverted like me though.

I ve mentioned schizoid and sociopathy relationship, but I guess.that to undestand the schizoid issues with boundary violations we must also look at OCPD and DPD.

On Millon tipology there are three breeds of PDs that combines SPD with either of the two if I am not wrong.

And schizoids are usually described as the ones who wouldnt hurt a fly but also stubborn(common DPD and OCPD description respectively)

Besides I ve seen many people here telling how they grow up taking care of relatives(almost as for shelter and routine) and also people of strong dogmatism.

So is.not complying a common schizoid way of dealing with demands that cross boundaries?

Is not the inability of expressing feelings a major issue for schizoids?

I mean, if we only were able to express annoyance and set boundaries with ease wouldnt it be much easier for us to relate to people?