Why is anyone SPD on social media anyway?

I've been pondering.
Why do I log-on to this site everyday? Is it an ego superiority thing?
Why do some people with SPD enter into rambling conversations with each other?
Is it because it's not 'real' communication, so we can pretend that everyone else out there doesn't exist - and we're really just talking to ourselves in the mirror?

Good question.

Maybe it's because there is a level of control people have here that they don't have in real life conversations.

There are times I come here to read with no intention of posting. Imagine being at a party and squeezing yourself in to a circle of people having a conversation. You don't say anything, you just listen. And when you've heard enough, you just walk away wordlessly. That's creepy.

Other times I'll reply to a whole string of threads. Sometimes I'll post something without any interest in how people will respond. Or I'll respond to something half a day (or half a month) after it was posted.

It's the control.

Why do some people with SPD enter into rambling conversations with each other?

Because they have stuff to say?

I think it's just a matter of different temperaments. Some people are naturally more talkative than others. This distinction exists separately from whether a person is SPD or not. Some people are more reserved than others. Some like to discuss ideas or concepts but don't have a social outlet to do so.

It is said that schizoids live deep in their heads. Nowhere is it specified how much is actually going on in said heads. But I have yet to come across any posters or posts in this particular sub-forum that point toward a lack of insight or intelligence. Some schizoids keep their heads tightly locked. Some like to let it all spill out on occasion. For this purpose, Psychforums is more preferable than a crowded bus.

Is it because it's not 'real' communication, so we can pretend that everyone else out there doesn't exist - and we're really just talking to ourselves in the mirror?

Again, it's all about control. I can be having a conversation with you here and if I should suddenly and unexpectedly lose interest, which happens a lot, I can make you cease to exist with the click of a mouse. Until such time when I choose to resurrect you.

Other times I post just to express something, regardless if it needs a response.

UK SPD wrote:I've been pondering.
Why do I log-on to this site everyday? Is it an ego superiority thing?
Why do some people with SPD enter into rambling conversations with each other?
Is it because it's not 'real' communication, so we can pretend that everyone else out there doesn't exist - and we're really just talking to ourselves in the mirror?

What is your usual stint for something? I see you have been here over a year.

I don't see this as social media but learning about the human condition. I think I am pattern matching and making connections with myself, possibly evolving. It seems kind of silly since I generally keep to myself so it's really of no benefit. I will eject myself at some point when my mind decides it.

When people's personal space is violated, they feel suffocated and feel the need to free themselves and be independent. People who have SPD tend to be happiest when they are in a relationship in which the partner places few emotional or intimate demands on them. It is not people as such that they want to avoid, but emotions both negative and positive, emotional intimacy, and self-disclosure.[10]

This means that it is possible for schizoid individuals to form relationships with others based on intellectual, physical, familial, occupational, or recreational activities as long as these modes of relating do not require or force the need for emotional intimacy, which the affected individual will reject. Donald Winnicott explains this need to modulate emotional interaction by saying that schizoid individuals "prefer to make relationships on their own terms and not in terms of the impulses of other people." Failing to attain that, they prefer isolation.[11]

From Wiki.

It seems all is fine until the "split?"

I think the defining feature of what's normally referred to as "social media" is the lack of appropriate compartmentalization. It's designed to invade as much of your life as possible and keep you at the mercy of "the algorithm". That's not the case here. So I think one thing is only comparable to the other in a very limited sense.

Why is anyone on so-called social media, though... beats me. It looks like most people are there "because everyone else is, so they have to be there too", which for most people is kind of true. They're not really active participants in the process. It's like what "having a phone number" used to be, except way more evil.

emillionth wrote:I think the defining feature of what's normally referred to as "social media" is the lack of appropriate compartmentalization. It's designed to invade as much of your life as possible and keep you at the mercy of "the algorithm". That's not the case here. So I think one thing is only comparable to the other in a very limited sense.

Why is anyone on so-called social media, though... beats me. It looks like most people are there "because everyone else is, so they have to be there too", which for most people is kind of true. They're not really active participants in the process. It's like what "having a phone number" used to be, except way more evil.

It's funny how so many people here have their own theories on how social media is destroying the fabric of humanity. Yet they all have some truth to them. There have been a couple threads on the topic.

I think what UK SPD is referring to here is why people with SPD would bother to use a message board.

Just re-read my original post. It looks like I was being pompous, yet again. I used to have a t-shirt that said 'This is what a pompous prat looks like' - which demonstrates just how pompous I can be. Sorry. I'm going to stick my head in a bucket and sing 'Head in a bucket blues' (Kevin Ayers).

UK SPD wrote:Just re-read my original post. It looks like I was being pompous, yet again. I used to have a t-shirt that said 'This is what a pompous prat looks like' - which demonstrates just how pompous I can be. Sorry. I'm going to stick my head in a bucket and sing 'Head in a bucket blues' (Kevin Ayers).

If it was meant that way, I didn't pick up on it but that's me.

UK SPD wrote:I've been pondering.
Why do I log-on to this site everyday? Is it an ego superiority thing?
Why do some people with SPD enter into rambling conversations with each other?
Is it because it's not 'real' communication, so we can pretend that everyone else out there doesn't exist - and we're really just talking to ourselves in the mirror?

I find value in the interaction. Staring at my reflection saying "Who are you?" all night seems fruitlessly masturbatory.

Online communication is less tiring than real communication because you can switch it off.