Peter Pan Syndrome

So I know this is not an official disorder. But does anyone see similarities with SPD? Schioids just like Peter Pan rarely get married and do not particularly like commitment. Perhaps schizoids are more likely to hold down a job. I think they are at least similar in emotional immaturity and the value they place on freedom and independence. Though, perhaps the reasons behind such perceived behaviour is different. What do you think?

What you're talking about is a character flaw. SPD is a disorder, and it certainly doesn't arise out of laziness or apathy.

naps wrote:What you're talking about is a character flaw. SPD is a disorder, and it certainly doesn't arise out of laziness or apathy.

Who said Peter Pans are lazy and apathetic? They are afraid of responsibilities and commitment. They are afraid of growing up and becoming an adult. But you are right about the distinction. It is a character flaw and in that way not comparable to a disorder.

PerplexedMan wrote:

naps wrote:What you're talking about is a character flaw. SPD is a disorder, and it certainly doesn't arise out of laziness or apathy.

Who said Peter Pans are lazy and apathetic? They are afraid of responsibilities and commitment. They are afraid of growing up and becoming an adult. But you are right about the distinction. It is a character flaw and in that way not comparable to a disorder.

They are afraid of change. They believe that if everything stays the same they won't ever have to "grow up"

Peter Pan syndrome seems to be depression mixed with an adult who wasn't properly talk how to get things done as a child.

Schizoids are typically known to be rather self reliant, because well we don't want people trying to help us. Peter Pan syndrome folks tend to still live in their parents because they claim they can't move out for whatever reason while their parents enable the bad behavior. Peter pan syndrome usually has a decent display of emotion as well. In fact usually they are very emotional.

I can't see any similarity to SPD honestly. More kind of avoidant/dependent traits maybe...

PerplexedMan wrote:So I know this is not an official disorder. But does anyone see similarities with SPD? Schioids just like Peter Pan rarely get married and do not particularly like commitment. Perhaps schizoids are more likely to hold down a job. I think they are at least similar in emotional immaturity and the value they place on freedom and independence. Though, perhaps the reasons behind such perceived behaviour is different. What do you think?

What's a good article on this? Some descriptions seem way off from SPD but others seem to share similar traits. However, it would seem the underlying cause is different.

Personally, I feel like an adult who has never fully grown up. Don't get me wrong, I have acquired many skills so I am more than self-sufficient and appear adult for the most part. However, my social skills and head space are still childlike and sanguine. I know the adult games, I just don't want to participate. It causes psychological stress when I do.

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/kristen- ... 27308.html

This article should give you an idea.

I think the usual perception is that schizoids are a little bit emotionally stunted but not necessarily immature. Peter Pans want to be independent but are not willing to put in the effort to guarantee such freedom. ie: it is not earned. Whilst a schizoid is more likely to seek employment and independence on his/her own terms just to avoid depending on others. Though, I have read that some here in the schizoid group still live with their parents and don't have jobs.

PerplexedMan wrote:https://www.huffingtonpost.com/kristen-houghton/the-peter-pan-syndrome_b_6127308.html

This article should give you an idea.

I think the usual perception is that schizoids are a little bit emotionally stunted but not necessarily immature. Peter Pans want to be independent but are not willing to put in the effort to guarantee such freedom. ie: it is not earned. Whilst a schizoid is more likely to seek employment and independence on his/her own terms just to avoid depending on others. Though, I have read that some here in the schizoid group still live with their parents and don't have jobs.

Yup that article seems about right.

I think the difference with schizoids without their own place or jobs is the anxiety levels of working and possibly competing with others along with depending on cost of living. Most schizoids wanting to move out to a place of their own in an expensive area would need a roommate(s). They probably won't have or want anyone to fill that role. Though they perhaps won't want to live with their mom and dad, it's still a more preferable alternative to a roommate.

Is "Peter Pan Syndrome" really a thing?

It seems more like a culturally-spawned moniker, like "crackwhore" or Mama's boy"

naps wrote:Is "Peter Pan Syndrome" really a thing?

It seems more like a culturally-spawned moniker, like "crackwhore" or Mama's boy"

I doubt it's an actual term used by doctors, but the personality type/syndrome/whatever is common enough.