I'm in love with a schizoid

I really like this guy, and I'm pretty sure he is a schizoid, he desplays many schizoid symptoms and he's a loner. I'm not sure what to do because I want to get to know him without annoying him or making him feel uncomfortable, is this at all possible?

rock your sox huh, I love the nick....

How old are you?

You love a guy you don't know?

Just being a loner doesn't make one schizoid. You couldn't know if someone is schiziod unless you really knew them well. Tell me more and I'll try to help.

Well, he's in my highschool, and all I know about him is that he has no friends, he sits by himself at lunch, on the bus, and in the morning and sleeps. he walks around looking depressed all of the time, and doesn't have very good eye contact, or looks very uninterested when talking to people.... He's smart, but he doesn't apply himself because he doesn't really care about grades. He has siblings which he isn't very close to, and he seems to keep away from most of his family members. He stays very covered up, even in the summer, wearing a jacket and hat. If he enters a classroom he picks a seat farthest away from anyone. I have had a conversation in which he seemed very nice complementary, and surprisingly un-shy, however, he would seem to back up slowly every once in a while. People are friendly to him and try to be his friend, but he avoids them, and never initiates a conversation with these people..... does this sound like a schizoid?

How do you know this guy is a schizoid, has he been diagnosed?

rocmysox01 wrote:Well, he's in my highschool, and all I know about him is that he has no friends, he sits by himself at lunch, on the bus, and in the morning and sleeps. he walks around looking depressed all of the time, and doesn't have very good eye contact, or looks very uninterested when talking to people.... He's smart, but he doesn't apply himself because he doesn't really care about grades. He has siblings which he isn't very close to, and he seems to keep away from most of his family members. He stays very covered up, even in the summer, wearing a jacket and hat. If he enters a classroom he picks a seat farthest away from anyone. I have had a conversation in which he seemed very nice complementary, and surprisingly un-shy, however, he would seem to back up slowly every once in a while. People are friendly to him and try to be his friend, but he avoids them, and never initiates a conversation with these people..... does this sound like a schizoid?

I wish I could remember the exact lyrics. It's a song from The Who, for us old people one of my favorites. I might be wrong about that. Good song. I'll take a stab at the lyrics, "See the man behind the sad eyes, take his hand, you'll be suprised."

Sounds more like me in high school and I'm PPD not scizoid. I'm not close to my family and I always set away from others but always in the back of the room. I was very shy, going into school could be so hard on me I'd shake with fear. Going to the office would leave me twitching. It was horrible. I missed a lot in high school becasue I was so sure everyone didn't like me.

Please reach out to him but when he responds and I'm 99% sure he will, don't keep him all to yourself, help him get involved with what's going on at school. Don't give up if the first try doesn't work. I'll tel lyou why....

I was walking in the door and this sexy tiny redhead stood in my way and gave me a sly look. I was about to wrap my arms around her and bury my head into her chest, but someone tapped me on the shoulder. I turned around to see who it was. When I turned back around she was gone.

I found her on the classmates board 20 years later, no 25 and told her I was sorry and explained what happened. At first she told me she didn't even remember it. But we've talked a lot since then and she told me she remembered cause she wanted to smother me in kisses. She said I was so quite, and kept to myself....

I never forgot her... Ahh sound like a couple of people you know? She and I often wonder what could have been, we still have a spark. Don't let it happen to you, try to keep those times where you wonder what could have been down to near zero. Go after him. Put you number on paper and hand it to him. If he doesn't call you, ask him for his. Be bold. I think you'll do fine. I'm saying this because the time you did talk to him, he seemed to really be hungry for it. But it might take some doing, he may not thing he has a chance with someone like you. Don't leave it left undone!

Thanks you for your help, I really appreciate your advice, I'll definetly make the effort to talk to this kid. By the way, I really like that song lyric "See the man behind the sad eyes, take his hand, you'll be suprised" do you have any idea what the name of that song is? It sounds very nice. Thanks again!

Boy was I off on the band... The band was a band from the 70's called Supertramp. And the name of the song is Give A Little Bit:

Give A Little Bit
Supertramp

Give a little bit
Give a little bit of your love to me
Give a little bit
I'll give a little bit of my love to you
There's so much that we need to share
Send a smile and show you care

I'll give a little bit
I'll give a little bit of my life for you
So give a little bit
Give a little bit of your time to me
See the man with the lonely eyes
Take his hand, you'll be surprised

Give a little bit
Give a little bit of your love to me
I'll give a little bit of my life for you
Now's the time that we need to share
So find yourself, we're on our way back home

...going home...
...don't you need to feel at home...
...oh yeah, we gotta sing

Here is another song, this is what sometimes happens if no one gives a little time, smiles or anything else:



Band: The Who
SONG: Behind Blue Eyes

No one knows what it's like
To be the bad man
To be the sad man
Behind blue eyes

No one knows what it's like
To be hated
To be fated
To telling only lies

But my dreams
They aren't as empty
As my conscious seems to be

I have hours, only lonely
My love is vengeance
That's never free

No one knows what it's like
To feel these feelings
Like I do
And I blame you

No one bites back as hard
On their anger
None of my pain and woe
Can show through

But my dreams
They aren't as empty
As my conscious seems to be

I have hours, only lonely
My love is vengeance
That's never free

When my fist clenches, crack it open
Before I use it and lose my cool
When I smile, tell me some bad news
Before I laugh and act like a fool

And If I swallow anything evil
Put your finger down my throat
And If I shiver, please give me a blanket
Keep me warm, let me wear your coat

No one knows what it's like
To be the bad man
To be the sad man
Behind blue eyes

(written by Pete Townsend)

Thanks, but if it turns out that he has SPD, then what?

I can't answer that question for you. He needs therapy, that's without a doubt. He's too young to be diagnosed at this point. Remember I suggested to you if you make any progress with him, to not keep him to yourself, to get him out with others? I said that as it may not be too late to help him. I suppose this could create a dependancy on others though. But the point is, you don't know. That redhead that blocked my door was very shy and quite in her teens, now she's an outgoing business woman. It's a difficult time for anyone, that is the teen years. Any partner with any personality disorder is a handful and you'd probably be better off finding somone else but life is not always governed by logic.

But what happens with anyone is not something I can answer for you.