How do people describe you?

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UK SPD wrote:This has thrown me a bit.
I cannot recall anyone ever describing me (within my hearing), and I'm 63!
Surely, somebody must have at some point in my life, surely?
It's probably selective dementia.
Or maybe selective indifference.

Actually, I just remembered something and double checked it.
When I was arrested the police officer, in his Arrest Report, described me as: "A middle-aged man with a large gut" - so that's now my official description.

Actually... now that i think. People at college often said i'm a creep or that i have dead eyes.. and my ex-ex-gf said i'm calm and soothing. Oh and i remember my sister saying that i remind her of Neil Maskell from the UK tv show Utopia.

I seem to be what is considered a genetically blessed female, and when I go places I'll normally have someone who seems to feel a need to confront and let me know with a smile that I look so bored and don't want to be there (as if I didn't already know this.)

A middle-aged man with a large gut wrote:I cannot recall anyone ever describing me (within my hearing)

My experience has been the same. I have no idea how people would describe me. I wouldn't even know how to describe myself. Once this subject came up in a conversation with somebody who knows me well (or thinks they do) and he asked. "Don't you know what you project?" to which I answered "No, and I don't want to know.". I regret saying that now. What was I afraid of?

I think people are way too concerned with themselves to think or comment about others, unless they're especially angry or especially attracted. In my life I haven't gotten much feedback coming from a neutral place. Never heard awkward, weird or autistic.

I saw some documentary about Japanese society and they interviewed some youths asking about their friends. And they all had very profound opinions about each other that one can only reach by careful observation. I was impressed. I estimate the majority in the west today is friends with someone because “it's fun with them” or “it feels good when the other is around” - like zero perception outside of their own body.

I feel like I've a pretty good grasp on almost everything that's going on other than myself. To describe myself would be a challenge for me. I don't know why that is. Is it avoidant, in need of reassurance, or even narcissistic? I went with depersonalized so far.

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lizard, urban dictionary: truck stop whore
I didn't know that! Which isn't surprising …
A truck stop ... you're old, you'll catch a cold. I looked gay cruising areas in NY up and there are 134 if we believe cruisinggaysdotcom. It's either in the open or some latrine, it appears. How about Barnes & Noble 33 E 17th St? Restroom on the second floor … next to the children's book section … Dear God.

The thing is, people can describe you indirectly in so many ways -- when they judge you, when they express mistrust, when they're trying to hurt you as much as possible, when they project their fears onto you and when they just want to revenge. In this thread people are focusing mostly on stuff that sort of flatters them, not the actually worst and perhaps unfairest (or just way too honest) accusations they've gotten. What I left out of my first post was that people have described me as a shifty and unreliable, highly strung and narcissistic, mentally ill lesbian satan worshipping freeloading pathological liar who has major authority issues and who is set to seduce other people's spouses. I babble too much and commit frauds while I secretly enjoy seeing how other people fail. In a nutshell . Disclaimer: personally I don't think that there is anything wrong with homosexuality, but the person who said it didn't mean it in a positive way.

I forgot back-stabbing.

Intelligent, quiet, all-business, serious, deep in thought, calm, respectful, distant, likeable (over time), secretive, egotistical, confident, competent, on-guard.
Family thinks I dislike them.
I come off as scary and intimidating somewhat to many people.