Hi Guys how i can get a girlfriend?

I Dream 5 wrote:I think this is a case of kemory mistaking "can't" for not actually realizing there is no real desire for friends. It's ok not to want friends. I know the "outside world" will tell you to get friends, but, if you don't have the desire, you don't have the desire. Don't beat up yourself over trying to be "normal". I did too much of this myself. I put on an act in order to try and look "normal". It did more harm than good. I had to learn about self-acceptance.

However, I can say that my role-playing did teach me a lot about things. It gave me the chance to experience the dating world. Anyway, maybe some things for you to consider.

Okay. So now you're a spokesman. Cool.

zeno wrote:

I Dream 5 wrote:I think this is a case of kemory mistaking "can't" for not actually realizing there is no real desire for friends. It's ok not to want friends. I know the "outside world" will tell you to get friends, but, if you don't have the desire, you don't have the desire. Don't beat up yourself over trying to be "normal". I did too much of this myself. I put on an act in order to try and look "normal". It did more harm than good. I had to learn about self-acceptance.

However, I can say that my role-playing did teach me a lot about things. It gave me the chance to experience the dating world. Anyway, maybe some things for you to consider.

Okay. So now you're a spokesman. Cool.

However you want to describe it is fine with me. All I know is that it's my reality

Geting a girlfriend is only half the problem. At first it might be nice; the thrill of conquest, and of course the physical aspect, but if you're truly a schizoid, it won't be long before you're posting here about how to get rid of her.

naps wrote:it won't be long before you're posting here about how to get rid of her

Although this would be a request we could really help with.

Dalloway wrote:

naps wrote:it won't be long before you're posting here about how to get rid of her

Although this would be a request we could really help with.

Yeah I'm good at getting rid of people.

As a Schizophrenic, I never thought I'd find a romantic partner. I looked for years, but then I found him. I didn't know it at first. We were friends for about a year before we officially started dating. He's Schizoid. He said he never was interested in dating, and the first few months of dating were a little odd, but we're still going after two years.

The point I'm trying to make, and probably failing at, is that you've got to keep trying. There is someone out there who will accept you. Socialise around. Maybe even try a dating site.

Tyler77 wrote:As a Schizophrenic, I never thought I'd find a romantic partner. I looked for years, but then I found him. I didn't know it at first. We were friends for about a year before we officially started dating. He's Schizoid. He said he never was interested in dating, and the first few months of dating were a little odd, but we're still going after two years.

The point I'm trying to make, and probably failing at, is that you've got to keep trying. There is someone out there who will accept you. Socialise around. Maybe even try a dating site.

Sorry but it's easier to talk because you're a woman.
I created fake profiles of women on dating sites and received dozens of messages a day. So if you're male, there's a lot of competition. And if you're schizoid, even worse.
Okay, so your boyfriend is schizoid and your relationship lasted two years?
Wow It might be a record because I've never heard a schizoid whose relationship lasted more than a year. That gives me hope.
So in this post so far there are two schizoids with relationships and both girlfriends also have psychological problems.
I guess that should be my best bet too. But where do I find women with psychological problems? It must be difficult.

You're wrong to say that I'm going to ask me to get rid of it.
There are at least two happy schizoids with relationships here.
And there is a third here who also seems to have enjoyed the experience:
schizoid-personality/topic146350.html

kemory wrote:Hi Guys,
Iam schizoid. What is the better chance for me get a girlfriend? Do you think it is possible?

Being schizoid doesn't prevent you from getting a girl-friend.

Some social skills are helpful. I think one can get such skills in casual social situations without
having to commit to friendships that you are unwilling to keep.

You can pursue a hobby that isn't solitary. That way you may meet girls who have something in common with you.

If you don't already, learn to love yourself. A confident person will appear more attractive.

Finally, take risks. Ask a girl out if you like her.

Good luck

kemory wrote:

Tyler77 wrote:As a Schizophrenic, I never thought I'd find a romantic partner. I looked for years, but then I found him. I didn't know it at first. We were friends for about a year before we officially started dating. He's Schizoid. He said he never was interested in dating, and the first few months of dating were a little odd, but we're still going after two years.

The point I'm trying to make, and probably failing at, is that you've got to keep trying. There is someone out there who will accept you. Socialise around. Maybe even try a dating site.

Sorry but it's easier to talk because you're a woman.
I created fake profiles of women on dating sites and received dozens of messages a day. So if you're male, there's a lot of competition. And if you're schizoid, even worse.
Okay, so your boyfriend is schizoid and your relationship lasted two years?
Wow It might be a record because I've never heard a schizoid whose relationship lasted more than a year. That gives me hope.
So in this post so far there are two schizoids with relationships and both girlfriends also have psychological problems.
I guess that should be my best bet too. But where do I find women with psychological problems? It must be difficult.

You're wrong to say that I'm going to ask me to get rid of it.
There are at least two happy schizoids with relationships here.
And there is a third here who also seems to have enjoyed the experience:
schizoid-personality/topic146350.html

I'm actually a man. I've only been asked out once, and that was from a woman who was rather desperate. As others have said, you need to try and go out and do some things. Look for social events in your area, talk to people, both men and women. Male friends can know of social events to go to, and you may be able to find more friends there. It never hurts to have at least one friend. Odds are, a girlfriend isn't going to come to you if you don't go out in the world.

Yes it's possible. You can find someone whose interested/attracted in you, but don't be took picky, and as others have said be careful what you wish for. I would say try signing up on a dating site & contact a few people. It's easier to have contact with someone 1st over the internet, in my experience. I've had 2 partners (the 2nd I married). The one asked me out unexpectedly. We were in grad school & shared an office so we talked occasionally. She told me later that it impressed her that I had had food poisoning & came in the next day & didn't act like it was a big idea. She did help me learn things about myself and become more independent & I enjoyed the sex. My wife I met on an internet dating site & I just sort of randomly emailed women I found attractive & who thought I might have some things in common with, and some replied.