Siblings

smirks wrote:I don't know that we had the same upbringing. Upbringings are interactional, and because we had very different levels of attachment and expressiveness growing up, it would naturally change the way we were treated by our parents, and by classmates, etc.

Yeah, OK. Makes sense. Interactionally, my sister definitely has a different upbringing than me. I've always been a loner and such, always quit and on the background, independent. I ''escaped'' from my parents narcissistic demands very early on, causing them to more or less give up about me I guess. They really don't expect me to marry and have children and what not anymore. In the meanwhile my sister is still entrapped as a victim in a that very poisonous narcisstic dynamic with our parents. In fact, it's like especially since I managed to escape from it, they turned entirely to my sister for their narcisstic supply. Now she has to deal alone with most of their crap...

Dalloway wrote:The loud, obnoxious brother, naps, how did you influence each other?

We hated each other. For various reasons. For a while I felt sorry for him because his explosive temper drove everybody out of his life; his wife, his college buddies, me. But that well of pity dried up a long time ago. I haven't seen him in years and don't expect or want to. He's dead to me.

I'm not SPD (or any PD) but I am introverted as my basic way of interacting with life. I have lots of people I interact with, and a small close immediate family that spans all age ranges, but if I don't get significant portions of time alone, totally alone, I go nuts. I can relate most closely to SPD folks of all the PDs though I like people and am appropriately social.

I have one sibling. We haven't spoken in many years. When I broke contact with my mother, I broke contact with her as well as she has become the spitting image of our mother. Both alcoholic. Both multiple marriages or rotating partners. Both put their kids far below their own wishes and impulses. Both are egocentric, gloatingly selfish, and find delight in hurting or harming others. My mother is diagnosed NPD; my sister would probably likewise be diagnosed if she ever sought treatment.

I have four brothers, and i had a little sister, she died when she was 12.

My older brother, is one year older than me, he used to beat the crap out of me, when we were younger, or send me in to fights, where i got soo messed up. But ofcouse that is nothing we talk about, ever. If i did, he would tell me to take my medicine, and leave the room. Why talk about stuff like that anyway.
Once i stored all my belongings, at his depositroom, while traveling, when a came home, he had gone through everything, taken what he could use, and destroyed other things, when i confronted him, he told me to take my pills, and put me on ignore. That was soo out of wack. I even had to pay for the strage.

I don't care about my family anymore. Yesterday i wanted to try out some mindfullness, and i had to forgive people who hurt me.
I found out, that i can not remember my childhood anylonger, or my mother, for that matter. All i know, is that certain things happend, but i do not recolect.

My older brother is is soo creepy. He is a dependent pd (type), with anti social traits, and he lies all the time, and just want to be accepted, even by the lowest, but never by his own brother. Nasty

^ Runestone that was very out of whack for your brother to do that.

I had three siblings, but only one my full blood sibling. I didn't feel close to any of them. Older sister was nice to me occasionally but it was rare. I think we are just too different people. She was perfect and popular, I was quiet and studious. She called me nerd. I guess I am kind of a nerd but I like it. Its better than being snobby and shallow imo.

Sometimes I think she even tried to outright sabatoge me. I had a dog she didn't like so she let it out of the house once when I wasn't home. We lived on a pretty busy street so she wanted it to get hit, I think. She was just self-centered and only interested in her image or in immediate gratification things like drugs and sex. She currently has a family and partner but they are involved in some sort of swinging open relationship thing. We worry a lot about her kids because she is raising them in a very laissez faire way. Reminds me of how we were raised.