I think I want to meet someone else with SPD

No, I'm serious.

It's a good way to interact without getting at all personal.

But then again I'll bet most board games can be played online.

Join Mensa.

I bet the majority of them are either Asperger's or Schizoid.

I heard they spend all their meetings playing trivial pursuit or other board games.

MotherRussia wrote:Join Mensa.

I know someone in Mensa.

Those people are some of the most arrogant, elitist dickwads on the planet.

naps wrote:

MotherRussia wrote:Join Mensa.

I know someone in Mensa.

Those people are some of the most arrogant, elitist dickwads on the planet.

Sounds like cerebral narcs.

Disregard.

zeno wrote:

naps wrote:Board games.

I'm not sure if you're kidding or not, but that sounds ideal to me.

That was my seizure last years.

Since I'm not fond of new age board games because of the materiel battle – you have to buy half a plastic castle to play it - while the complexity and possible immersion for myself was never worth it, I picked Japanese mahjong.

I've done all the research, imprinted the rules into my retina and was pretty thrilled because I thought people interested in this game, would probably also be interested in Japanese culture, would be rather analytical and in for the long haul, since rīchi is fairly complicated.
Although you can also play this online, the playing style is highly individualistic, so reading moves and hands is on another level when you know the players involved.

I've taught approximately 20 people (age between 20 and 50) the game over the course of 2 month. None of them were interesting to me; neither prepared, nor articulate, nor diverting in any other way. Every participation I would describe as accidental. It could also have been pick-a-stick, wouldn't have made any difference.

The qualifications of those making the final team, were being able to read a clock and actually showing up. I remember one women who couldn't wait – she wrote pages and pages, asking about the rules beforehand, bought herself a game because she was so fascinated by it and didn't came to her first meeting because “it looked like rain”. We were not playing outside, btw, like I would do that.

Honestly, children and butterflies.

In the end these people weren't worth the effort, so I canceled it.

naps wrote:

At their core, avoidants want to break out of their isolation. I believe an avoidant or someone with social anxiety would be willing to suffer the discomfort of a group meeting in order to make strides toward being more socially comfortable.

For a schizoid, I think, it would merely be triggering.

For which schizoid? you? me? it seems many of you take some ''textbook case'' and wave it around, but it is barely real! People are very different.
Funny thing is, many people here are trying to correspond the described schizoid picture at all costs. It's like their world is going to be ruined if they're less schizoid than they think)) or less textbook, let's say.

Answering the questions, id like to avoid stamping people saying things like "oh i interacted with schizofreniacs, we get along perfectly well" xd So far i personally know only 1 severe introvert i really love talking to. Again, that doesn't tell you anything. If you're interested in such a meeting, why don't you try. The success of it won't depend on how schizoid those people are.

(I used to think about it myself, but there's no corresponding community in my city i guess). For years I've been talking to quite a few persons who obviously have spd online, and only one of them was diagnosed, they're all extremely different.

I have a hard time with planning dates, speaking in groups with strangers in person, So, having the anonymity behind a computer screen, which would include the least amount of social effort on my part. Is where I'm most comfortable. In my own element. When someone tries to plan anything with me I immediately feel a drop in my stomach. The feelings of being imprisoned inside relationships is what I struggle with every single day. To quote some facts, I simply don't know where the unconscious and consciousness ends within other people. I'm hypersensitive in a way that 's not exactly normal. I can feel so emotionally charged that I put on a dead pan expression and have hidden my emotions as if by instinct.

I would like to meet someone who struggles with this as well.

I would love to find a place where I could meet other people with stp, women mainly cause I really want kids, but guys too cause I barely have any friends, I've spent the past 8 years alone, now I'm 36, single, and just feel as tho my window of opportunity to find that 1 person I actually feel comfortable around, to marry and start a family with, is closing faster and faster, the longer I wait the older I get, meanwhile the all the good women are scooped by outgoing assholes who dont even appreciate how special it is to actually have someone. Its impossible for me to initiate a social interaction with a stranger, I cant even begin to imagine what to say, or worse I can imagine everything but cant seem to find a valid reason as to why I should say anything at all, unfortunately that's literally the only way to meet people, so I'm pretty sure I'm just gonna die sad and alone. Pretty depressing. So that's why I would live to find a meeting place for others like me, because the most important part of that special someone I'm trying to meet (well not actively trying, just wishing) is that they are understanding, they know what I am, understand it and are ok and patient with it/me. I realize I'm pretty much talking about an oxymoron, cause none with stp would show up, if your like me you'll really want to go then intentionally procrastinate or just freeze up until it's too late, then I'll say "well it's too late, cant go now" and all the stress and worry that had me frozen and unable to leave the house will disappear, then I'll just hate myself for "wussing out". It may be easier to go to a meeting with similar people, cause I'd know i wouldn't have to worry about being social or feeling like an alien among "regular" people, I might feel, idk, something different than my usual undesirable feelings. I do gotta say, just reading other posts from similar people made me feel less like an alien and that's a good thing, so thank you for sharing, hopefully 1 person might read my post and feel a little less alone. All that being said, if anyone has information about how people with stp are supposed to find a life partner, I would really appreciate that, I dont even know where I would begin to look for that, both in real life or the internet, thanks for letting me vent, it feels much less crazy to type to real people than to just sit alone imagining myself having elaborate conversations with all the people in my life that I actually never speak to in real life

I read most of the comments here and i thought of a better idea that i know would suit me and possibly more people here better-
Some kind of an open online skype room where you meet the same people, if you feel like it you talk once in a while, i guess it would be silent most of the time.

I thought of it because as i know myself i cant fill the silence with voice without forcing it, so that idea to meet makes me feel something is supposed to happen but it doesnt, so a skype room where you can just not speak (with the same people, maybe 10-15 people) would be less challenging, more natural, you can keep mic off most of the day

Most of all there isnt this unwanted commitment for something you dont enjoy doing, but have to do for your mental health