Suddenly schiziod in your 50's?

Is it possible to have an active sex life, move in and live with various women through your mid 50's and then not be able to touch a women unless you're totally drunk? I mean not even share a room with her.

Sure. Anythings possible. Maybe your mojo ran out.

But I seriously doubt that it's an issue with SPD.

Why do you feel its not related to schizoid personality? He ticks off all the boxes describing a schiziod he says he has never enjoyed sex and only did it because it was expected. His father was very similar never showing emotion or afection. I know he loves me deeply but is unable to express it physically. He kisses with his lips closed like you'd kiss your sister and huging is very stiff and ackward. We share the same bed now but no sex or touching. He will not even undress in front of me. I feel very sure hes schizoid and this forum has been a god send in helping me cope and understand him. I would really like some feed back from others -its a very lonely road

Eggroll wrote:Why do you feel its not related to schizoid personality? He ticks off all the boxes describing a schiziod he says he has never enjoyed sex and only did it because it was expected. His father was very similar never showing emotion or afection. I know he loves me deeply but is unable to express it physically. He kisses with his lips closed like you'd kiss your sister and huging is very stiff and ackward. We share the same bed now but no sex or touching. He will not even undress in front of me. I feel very sure hes schizoid and this forum has been a god send in helping me cope and understand him. I would really like some feed back from others -its a very lonely road

Sorry, me again. Didn't mean to be so cheeky.

The schizoid's reluctance to participate in physical intimacy has it's roots in emotional disconnect. Sex is a physical expression of emotional intimacy. It's hard enough for a schizoid to have a romantic conversation over dinner, so the unrestrained emotional expression that frequently comes with sex would be even more difficult. You say he loves you deeply and that you share the same bed..these are two hurtles that a schizoid will find particularly daunting. If he's able to co-habitat with you (I'm only assuming he is) then I'd say that's more than half the battle. Sex itself should be the easy part in this case.

My reluctance to enter into physical relationships is mainly due to my disinterest in the emotional intimacy involved. You give no indication that he is anything but forthcoming in regards to the emotional bond that you share, which, again, is not characteristic of the schizoid personality. Many schizoids not sexually dysfunctional, we're emotionally dysfunctional.

Additionally, you provided very little information about the situation in whole, so I answered based solely on the information you provided. Has he been diagnosed? Does he fit four or more of the diagnostic criteria listed on the sticky above?:

neither desires nor enjoys close relationships, including being part of a family

almost always chooses solitary activities

has little, if any, interest in having sexual experiences with another person

takes pleasure in few, if any, activities

lacks close friends or confidants other than first-degree relatives

appears indifferent to the praise or criticism of others

shows emotional coldness, detachment, or flattened affectivity

Sexual inhibition in men can arise from many conditions. I think you are doing yourself a disservice by immediately jumping to the schizoid conclusion.

It could be self-esteem issues, it could be low testosterone, it could be a lot of things. Things that can be addressed and possibly remedied.