Christmas Lies

So this tethers heavily into my drama this year.

Met girl. Moved in with her.

There was a window where everyone else felt like we were ######6, and just shy about it. We were not.

I was not that into her then. She got more and more angry with me without communicating why. I honestly thought "why" was the not ######6. I try to tell her, I'm into it if she's into it, it's no big deal.

Nothing happens. A bit later she asks me to move out. She talks about being asexual now, like seriously... I've been asexual way before you. The way you treat it like a some new crazy thing is insulting.

I move out. Solo again. That's good. She moves back to her old place.

More ######6 sex-based drama follows.

Seriously... we may be super compatible in the not that sexual but kinda into things thing. We may honestly be on the exact same libido track. Yet you got pissed at me for expressing interest during a point where I felt it. It's like we are just out of sync, but if we worked at it we could both make sense of it. It's infuriating. We almost have the same level of drive. We are both not about sex, but some of the time we'd be into it for a minute. Honestly, it's kinda enraging at the moment.

I have two days of family obligations and then I try to hang low and get housework done for the rest of it. Of course, I lie. I personally like to spend Christmas reorganizing my home and embarking on creatively fulfilling tasks -- I like writing or creating artwork or playing music. I don't really have a lot of time for hobbies because I work a lot, and I find that more fulfilling than parties and idle chit chat (usually about topics that I have no interest in).

Overall Christmas Eve was fine but my mum interrogated me for three hours about when I will get married.

Its not like I haven't had relationships. They were just horrible.

I think she was just drunk. But I'd rather not see my mum drunk and ranting/nagging incessantly at me Xmas Eve. It sort of left me in a paranoid mood too.

I'm spending Christmas on my own, from choice, as I have for the past several years. I agree there is great social pressure about this, more than at any other time of year, but I don't lie about it...I might be a little bit evasive but if asked outright I will say I'm spending the holidays alone and that's what I prefer. I guess as I've got older I don't feel under so much pressure to fit in. Plus, I think that these days even those people who actually LIKE socialising and family are getting tired of the hype around Christmas, the over-consumption and waste, the traffic jams, the preparations, expense and forced jollity.... So when I say I'm spending Christmas alone, yeah some people look like they feel sorry for me and don't know what to say, but others look like maybe they're a bit jealous!

naps wrote:

Reynolds wrote:It's Christmas Eve and I don't have any family to deal with and there's no people I need to deal with so I don't have to tell any lies. Since on Christmas Day nearly everything will be closed and I have all the food I need there's nowhere I need to go so it will be a nice and quiet day. It's supposed to be rainy and windy here tomorrow so it's just a great time to stay inside.

same here, exactly. Although I think it's supposed to be sunny here tomorrow.

I keep forgetting that it's Christmas Eve. No reason to remember, really..

It's an odd day here weather-wise. We had a wet snowfall on Saturday morning and now it is a few degrees above freezing and raining but tonight the temperature will go up into the 40s before going to below freezing tomorrow. It will be like a skating rink but then there's nowhere I need to go.
One thing though, with Christmas on a Sunday it will seem like a normal week.

For me it's a totally relaxed day with no people at all to deal with, so it's a good day. When the kids were little it was fun because you can enjoy the day through them. For so many being alone on Christmas is hard but too often it's like a sore in their mouth that they poke with their tongue to feel the pain--I don't need that. There's a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt that says "nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent" but I apply that to anything: nobody can make you feel small or guilty or anything without your consent. I don't consent. Today is just another day and there is nothing inherently bad about it other then the weather. So, life is good, people not so much.

Reynolds wrote:It's Christmas Eve and I don't have any family to deal with and there's no people I need to deal with so I don't have to tell any lies. Since on Christmas Day nearly everything will be closed and I have all the food I need there's nowhere I need to go so it will be a nice and quiet day. It's supposed to be rainy and windy here tomorrow so it's just a great time to stay inside.

This is comforting. To me, anyway. Re-arrange it a bit and spice up some of the words and it could be a poem.

Actually, I try to spend most of my days off like this. I try to take care of all errands on workdays so on my days off I don't have to leave the apartment. And while I have an interest in the weather, I almost always experience it vicariously, as in through the windows. I like the sunshine. My apartment has a southern exposure and a lot of windows, so there's always a lot of sun shining in. Kind of sad, really. If I lived in a less urban environment I'd get out more. But what's the point when there's nothing but brick and concrete everywhere?

I hate the cold but I like the snow. I find it comforting, as well. I like the big storms, 2 feet or more. I like the fact that it strands so many people inside their homes. They may get frustrated or bored, but I'm in my element. I usually consider that a strength, but today I find it depressing , as well.

So today I watched a couple movies, made a music mix, cleaned out some files on the computer. I didn't even click on my browser until now. These forums, and the internet in general is usually pretty dead on big holidays. But there's been a lot of activity here today, comparatively. I'm way out of synch with things lately. I need something to happen to shake things up. Like winning twenty thousand dollars or a fall down the stairs. A curve-ball. Something.


@Ashlar, was that a drunk post?

-- Sun Dec 25, 2016 5:56 pm --

naps wrote:I'm way out of synch with things lately.

See what I mean? I commented on the same post twice.

I'm Jewish & our Christmas tradition is to get Chinese food & go to a movie. We've dropped the movie part & got take out, but that's pretty much it. We did go to a Hanukkah part last night that a friend of my wife's has every year, but we arrived late enough that there were only 3 other people there, so that wasn't too difficult to get through.

Third day of festivities and I feel truly socially maxed now.

People will start thinking I'm pissed off but I really just can't handle much more interacting.

MotherRussia wrote:Third day of festivities and I feel truly socially maxed now.

People will start thinking I'm pissed off but I really just can't handle much more interacting.

Third day? How many times was Jesus born in your country?

naps wrote:

MotherRussia wrote:Third day of festivities and I feel truly socially maxed now.

People will start thinking I'm pissed off but I really just can't handle much more interacting.

Third day? How many times was Jesus born in your country?

Its not over yet. We still have the Epiphany.